Post # 1
Today I received an invite to my sorority sister’s shower on Mar. 20. I need to RSVP by Mar. 6. I will not be able to attend the shower as I work all day.
Question: what is the proper ettiquite on a present for the shower. Is one required even though I am not attending? And, if I do need to send one, who do I send it to? The woman in charge or do I send it directly to the future bride?
Post # 3
It isn’t *required* but it would be polite. Especially if you are close to the sorority sister. You can send it directly to the bride if you do choose to send one. That’s how I handled a shower I wasn’t able to attend last summer. 🙂
Post # 4
Yeah, you could send some sort of small gift if you feel bad sending nothing, just something small from the registry, and then a nice card wishing her a good shower, apologies that you couldn’t make it and smooth sailing for the rest of the planning!
Post # 5
I would send it to the woman throwing the shower so that the gift will be there for the shower. Reason being is you don’t know if the shower is a surprise and I would hate for your gift arriving early would ruin her surprise shower!
Post # 6
I do want to send a gift to her, she’s my Big Sister in our sorority so we are close. So, to the HBIC then? lol, I’ve never met her but I doubt she’s a B. Is it appropriate to ask for her address when I call and RSVP? It seems a bit…err…weird seeing as I have only met her once perhaps. I don’t know.
Post # 7
When you call you RSVP, simply ask the hostess where you should send the gift. She will indicate to you whether it’s a surprise shower or whether it’s okay to send to your Big Sister. 🙂
Post # 8
It is not required but it’s polite to send one. I agree with gemstone that you should ask the host as to where to send the gift 🙂
Post # 9
You certainly don’t need to send a gift, but since you are close, it would be nice. I agree with everyone that is saying you should call the hostess of the party and find out where you should send the gift.
Post # 10
I agree with “not required but polite”.
Post # 11
Thanks for the advice ladies! I’ll RSVP today and ask the Hostess then. 🙂
I <3 WB. Everyone is so helpfull!!
Post # 12
I say send it to the person throwing the shower so she can have it on the special day 🙂
Post # 13
i think sending the gift directly to the bride to be would be best. my own shower invites just went out and i just received a gift in the mail from a guest that would be unable to attend and i thought it was very kind of them to still send a gift. it may be set up on the bride’s registry to just automatically send a gift purchased online to her. for my macy’s registry anyone who purchases a gift online will be able to automatically have it sent to me and it even came with a small card attached from the guest, so there must be an option to attach one at the time of purchase.
Post # 14
If you would like the gift to be opened at the shower in leu of your absence, the you should send it to the hostess. since you will be calling her to RSVP anyhow, you can make her aware of its arrival.