(Closed) Wedding Shower Invite Arrived Today…help!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Where do I send a gift, if any?
    The Bride : (15 votes)
    54 %
    The Woman in Charge : (6 votes)
    21 %
    Don't Need to Send a gift : (7 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    16215 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    It isn’t *required* but it would be polite. Especially if you are close to the sorority sister. You can send it directly to the bride if you do choose to send one. That’s how I handled a shower I wasn’t able to attend last summer. πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
    Member
    1982 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Yeah, you could send some sort of small gift if you feel bad sending nothing, just something small from the registry, and then a nice card wishing her a good shower, apologies that you couldn’t make it and smooth sailing for the rest of the planning!

    Post # 5
    Member
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would send it to the woman throwing the shower so that the gift will be there for the shower. Reason being is you don’t know if the shower is a surprise and I would hate for your gift arriving early would ruin her surprise shower!

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    16215 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    When you call you RSVP, simply ask the hostess where you should send the gift. She will indicate to you whether it’s a surprise shower or whether it’s okay to send to your Big Sister. πŸ™‚

    Post # 8
    Member
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    It is not required but it’s polite to send one.  I agree with gemstone that you should ask the host as to where to send the gift πŸ™‚

    Post # 9
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    You certainly don’t need to send a gift, but since you are close, it would be nice. I agree with everyone that is saying you should call the hostess of the party and find out where you should send the gift.

    Post # 10
    Member
    3252 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I agree with “not required but polite”.

    Post # 12
    Member
    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I say send it to the person throwing the shower so she can have it on the special day πŸ™‚

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    2083 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i think sending the gift directly to the bride to be would be best. my own shower invites just went out and i just received a gift in the mail from a guest that would be unable to attend and i thought it was very kind of them to still send a gift. it may be set up on the bride’s registry to just automatically send a gift purchased online to her. for my macy’s registry anyone who purchases a gift online will be able to automatically have it sent to me and it even came with a small card attached from the guest, so there must be an option to attach one at the time of purchase.

    Post # 14
    Member
    803 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If you would like the gift to be opened at the shower in leu of your absence, the you should send it to the hostess.  since you will be calling her to RSVP anyhow, you can make her aware of its arrival.

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