(Closed) Wedding Shower-No Gift

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do I send a thank you card
    Yes : (7 votes)
    24 %
    No : (22 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 3
    1438 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I vote no, they dont deserve a thank you when all they did was show up. 

    Post # 4
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I think you only need to send a thank you card to those who gave you gifts.  Not sure what the real rules are etiquette-wise but.. in this case that’s what I would do.

    Post # 5
    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee

    if it were me I would send a card, maybe don’t explicitly say thank you for anything,but  a ‘it was so nice to finally meet your lovely wife’ card and leave it at that. 

    Post # 6
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    No I wouldnt send them a card but who knows maybe there planning on giving you something bigger at the wedding. Many brides believe that bridal party members have enough expenses that they do not need to gift at any wedding event.

    Post # 8
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would, but I like writing notes (weird, I know).  I’d also secretly hope they had a little twinge of feeling bad for not bringing anything or at least remembered to drop their gift in the mail.  Maybe they just forgot it!

    My brother is notorious for his vapor-gifts.  He swore before the wedding that he bought us this knife block.  Fast forward to our two month anniversary and I finally decided to just send them a thank-you for the gift they did get us (which was nice!).  I had of course thanked him already and said I’d send it when he had a chance to mail the 2nd part.  Well… it arrived less than 2 weeks after I sent the card (which is about right considering mail to and from Texas from here). 

    Post # 9
    2009 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I say yes. 


    But, honestly I’m more shocked at the cash bar than the no gift.


    Maybe they are only bringing a gift to the wedding.  maybe they bought it online and had it sent directly to you.

    I say thank them for coming and honoring you, as you said.


    Post # 10
    12973 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @axeyourmakeupkit:  +1

    Say how nice it was to finally meet his wife and you look forward to seeing them at the wedding.  No need to drag it out.  They should get a card because they did, at the very least, give up an afternoon to celebrate with you. 

    Post # 11
    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I send thank yous even if I don’t get gifts.

    Post # 12
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Yes, it would be right to send them a thank you note.  A few people didn’t give gifts at my wedding. I was still thankful that they came, so I sent them thank you notes.

    Post # 13
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    No, you don’t need to send them a card. but I also have no issue with them not bringing a gift. To me being in the wedding party is gift/expense enough and who knows, they may be planning to give a larger wedding gift. Guys just don’t really think about the fact that a good friend might really want a card for sentimental reasons so I’d let it go. 

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