Post # 1
My wedding is October 20, 2012 and I just dont think that I am going to have any showers. Maybe I should have chosen my BM’s more carefully? I sent a list of names and addresses to my Maid/Matron of Honor and a list of family to my mother ( who claims she is going to have a family shower sometime in september, but she never does what she says) How do I ask my BM’s if they are planning a shower or if they intend to throw a shower without being rude?
Post # 3
@KaitH08: Your bridesmaids should know that part of their duties is to throw you a bridal shower. Just ask nicely… Say you were looking at dates that coordinate with some out of town family members and if any of those dates work for them.
Post # 4
That’s such a weird thing. I know my sister (MOH) is planning a shower, or was thinking of it. I feel like I should not be involved as I just seems odd to me.
Post # 5
@MrsTimmy: I agree. I think it’s a bit strange to be overly involved in the bridal shower planning as the bride for a variety of reasons.
In this instance, I would simply ask your Maid/Matron of Honor if there are any weekends that you should set aside for wedding related activities (e.g., bridal shower) as you are trying to plan a get-away with your Fiance. It is a way of asking without being in-her-face-why-aren’t-you-on-top-of-this-already!