(Closed) wedding song first dance -inappropriate?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: drunk in love

    stick to your song

    pick a more appropriate song

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    Buzzing bee

    maybe have someone play it on an acoustic guitar. No lyrics       

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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

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    cschmidt:  That’s a good one for a reception dance with everyone on the floor! Not so much for a first dance in my opinion. What kind of dance would you even do to that?

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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

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    cschmidt:  I’m super into this idea. However, my ideal first dance song is “Best I Ever Had” by Drake soooo…. take from that what you will. 

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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016 - His Way Church & Chesapeake Room @ Downs Park

    If you pick the guitar one, don’t go by the one on youtube. Download the song. I just heard a woman interrupt it in the middle saying “Please support this cover by downloading. Thank you!”

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    Honey bee

    Love the violin cover!

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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

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    cschmidt:  Stick to your song 🙂 The violin cover that PP shared is amazing and would make for a good first dance. I would then just play the normal version of the song a little later into the night when everyone is up and dancing.

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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: Saint Domingue

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    cschmidt:  If you have to ask if something is appropriate it probably isn’t. 

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    If you two have a song, use it. What better time to use your song than your wedding day?

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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

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    cschmidt:  One of my friends did that thing where they started off with a slow song, then morphed it in to Jay Z’s N***** in Paris, because they love the song. This is a couple who got married at St Paul’s Cathedral and had their reception at Claridges. 

    Use whatever song you like, it’s your wedding! 

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    Helper bee

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    MiniMeow:  Have you heard the song before?

     

    OP is it a good song, but the lyrics speak specifically about sex… really specific words. I would feel awkward having to watch 2 people dance to it. Maybe an all in dance party, but not a first dance.  I would go for one of the covers/instrumental versions.

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    Sugar bee

    i love it and I would use it as is or start with a slower song and switch out to that after a min of slow dancing and have all your bridesmaids and groomsmen etc worded up to join you on the dancefloor. its a wedding *party* after all 

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    Worker bee

    I think it depends on how comfortable you will feel. Would you feel comfortable dancing to this song in front of your family? If you think you can get over the fact that there might be some raised eyebrows, then go for it! If you’re just going to be awkward and uncomfortable, then you aren’t going to enjoy your first dance, so you should pick something else.

    There are a couple of things you can do. You can just talk to your parents and ask them how they’d feel about you two dancing to that as your first song. And then you’d be able to take their reactions into account and decide if you still want to do it.

    You can also choose an instrumental version, as previous posters have suggested. There are a few instrumental covers you can buy on iTunes. You should definitely buy the song and make sure you can play it offline in case the wi fi is spotty at your venue.

    There are also a few toned down covers on iTunes. That will work if you don’t mind the words but you’d like something you can slow dance to.

    Basically, I would stick to your song, but what version depends on how comfortable you will be during your dance! Take your parents’ opinions into account, but only insofar as it will affect your comfort during the dance.

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