Post # 1
Starting to think about speeches, and preparing mine! Which got me thinking about , well when does everyone say their piece? What would be a good timeline?
Curious to see what others did for timeline for speeches. Who spoke when?
I read up on the tradition of wedding speeaches and learnt that well, we will not be following that.
My list of people who will be doing speeches:
Fiance and I
One of my sisters
Bridal Party (2 mins)
Grooms Party (2 mins)
Post # 2
Nikkimcq: We did this:
1) Best Man
2) Maid/Matron of Honor
3) His parents
4) My parents
5) Us – basically a “thank you” speech to wrap it all up!
I know ours was a bit shorter and sweeter than yours might be, but hopefully that helps give you an idea! 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 3
pengoala: I really like this arrangement. Kind of what i had in mind, but wasnt sure if parents of wedding party should start!
Thanks so much!!
Post # 4
Nikkimcq: sure thing! I think nowadays people are fairly liberal here with how the speeches go, you should be fine! 🙂
Post # 5
Nikkimcq: We’ll just be having the Best Man & Maid of Honor and maybe the groom give a toast at the reception. Everyone else is relegated to speak their mind at the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 6
We are constantly debating this.
Where he’s from the Best Man speaks last. I believe it should be the couple to go last. We haven’t yet come to an agreement.
I would like it to go like this:
Maid/Matron of Honor
Us (me then him).
Post # 7
sostobe: I like this order as well. As weddings are on “behlaf” of the parents, i thought they should start things off mm. So many options and ideas!
Post # 8
I am just having parents at the rehearsal dinner. Knowing them, they will get too emotional at the wedding and it just better to keep theirs more intimate. We will be doing
Maid/Matron of Honor, best man, us
Post # 9
Nikkimcq: Our wedding is not on behalf of our parents. We’re paying for everything. We’re planning it all. We’re in our 30s, our parents are guests of honour, but they aren’t hosting.
That said, I love my parents and his. And we know they’ll all have lots to say! So I’d like to have them start the speeches. And it alternates, my side, his side, through all the speeches. And, IMO, we should have the last say.
Post # 10
Only our dads and the MoH gave a short speech.
When you say “bridal party, 2 minutes”, is that each member of your party…? I don’t really think everyone needs to give a speech, and frankly the guests get bored after a while.
Post # 11
Westwood: No! Sorry, not two minutes each. I agree, everyone would get bored. Just giving the Grooms party and bridal party, two mins each as a group. Instead of choosing who would do the speech, left it up to them to discus amongst each other. My moh is super duper shy like me, and even thinking of speaking in public makes me want to barf. I dont want anyone to feel pressure to “have” too. So thought 2 mins would be suffice 🙂
Post # 12
My parents<br />Husband’s parents<br />Husband’s 2 brothers<br />MOH<br />Best Man<br />Me & my husband
The speeches were short and sweet, and hilarious! 🙂
Post # 13
Nikkimcq: We had: My father, my husband, me, the best man. The UK tradition (which mostly applies here in Australia) is father of bride, groom, best man; but I wanted to say a few words too. In the case of my husband and I, it was just a short set of thank yous.
I like this arrangement because apart from the thank yous by the bride and/or groom, you’ve got one person talking about the bride (her father) and one talking about the groom (his best friend). You can change this around (e.g. replace bride’s father with Maid/Matron of Honor, or best man with groom’s father), but if you have too many more it’s a bit much. Your original list has 3 people talking about you (one of your parents, one of your sisters, one of the bridal party), and I think that could be overdoing it.
As for when to do them: they were either after or during dessert (I can’t remember!), all in one block; and pretty well every wedding I’ve been to has been like that. Again, that’s the UK/Australian tradition and I see you’re in Canada where it might be a little different.
Post # 14
We had my dad, my mum, DH’s parents (together per their choice), maid of honour, best man between entree & main. All kept it short & sweet – my parents were super sentimental (dad was choking up through most of his!) and his were super funny so it was a good mix. I and then Darling Husband spoke before we cut the cake – I was really short, just wanted to say thanks personally and tell everyone how much I love Darling Husband, hah. Rounded it off with a couple of quotes (incl the Dr Suess weirdness one :P). Darling Husband did a more traditional speech 😉