- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
So I’ve never really done any posting on a website before but I need to vent! I’m getting married in October to the greatest guy in the world and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him. This whole wedding planning process has me stressed out!
To give a little background to my story, I got engaged in September 2010 and about two weeks later my older sister got engaged. I’ve always wanted a fall wedding and we knew we already were going to have a busy summer in 2011. Well, my sister decided she was going to get married in August 2011 and she basically rammed her wedding in before us. I’ve tried to be calm about it but it’s really upsetting me and I feel like everyone is going to compare our weddings and that everyone is so concerned about her wedding and that my wedding is just an afterthought. (I know that sounds selfish but I’m frustrated.)
To add another level of complication to the story my, the guy she is marrying his mother has her own bridal business. So of course we should then use Sandy for everything. For starters she can purchase certain wedding gown manufactures so that automatically narrowed down what dresses I was supposed to look at. Don’t get me wrong I love my dress and the bridesmaid dresses that I picked but it annoyed me that my mom automatically told me I could only look at the designers Sandy could purchase. Now, my mom paid for my dress so I just quietly went along with the limitations set by her.
The invitations, cake, and flowers are being paid for by me and my fiancé.
My fiancé and I shopped around for wedding invitations and founds some through a different vendor then Sandy. Instantly I got “Why don’t you use Sandy? She can save you some money.” I didn’t like any of the invitations Sandy made and I don’t have the time or energy to assemble all of my invitations to save a few dollars. Her invitations didn’t fit our style so we went with another vendor.
Now Sandy also makes wedding cakes and I’m automatically supposed to use her for them. My sister and my cousin are having Sandy make their wedding cakes for their weddings this year as well. I don’t want to have the exact same cake as the two of them so we are shopping around for cake vendors. My mom got an attitude and said fine if you want to spend $1000 on a cake then go ahead. (For the record the cake is less than $1000.)
Lastly, the flowers for the big day. Again, Sandy does wedding flowers. Are you feeling a trend here? My fiancé and I have been shopping around for florists as well and found one that we just love. We felt that the owner just “got us” and the style that we are trying to create for our wedding day. My mom wants us to use Sandy because she could save us some money but I don’t think she will get our style. My mom told me we could go with Sandy to the wholesale flower market and pick out the flowers we want. I don’t want to do all this extra work, I want to tell someone what our vision is and just trust them to make it happen.
For the record my fiancé live an hour away from our wedding location and we live two hours from Sandy. I’m just sick and tired of my mom and sister telling me what to do all the time. They constantly ask me how much stuff costs even though they aren’t paying for it and I don’t think it’s any of their business.
They are really sucking the joy out of wedding planning. How do I tell them to back off without hurting their feelings? I love my mom and know she is as equally excited about the wedding but I feel that my fiancé and I should get to do what we want (as long as we can afford it). I can’t go on for another 5 1/2 months like this!
Thanks for listening to my venting.