Post # 1
My wedding is still a year away but holy moly, I feel expectations from so many people I am close too. Do this at your wedding, have this at your wedding. You can’t do that, it would look silly. No one has done that. Really Joni, mason jars for centerpieces? GRRRRR! Anyone else having this stress?!
My mom has been really stressing me out. We are super close, so I take her opinions very serious. But sometimes I just wish she would keep em to herself!!! I tell her what I would love to do and she questions it. Then that makes me second guess my decisions. My older sister was married last summer and her wedding was very beautiful but also expensive! I get this feeling from my mom and sister that our wedidng has to be like my sisters and even though that would be great, my fiance can’t justify spending that much money. At first I was thinking ‘why not? its one day of our lives’ but it’s not us paying for our wedding. I really don’t think it’s worth taking that much money from our parents either.
So, now the thought of eloping sounds really sweet. I can just imagine my parents reaction if I told them ‘we are going down south to get married! come if ya want’ GASP
Post # 3
Breathe! Ok, I think everyone feels like this at some point. You have a lot of time. What if you took your ideas to your mom (if her opinion is really important) and tell her you want “something like this” and ask her what she thinks would make it perfect. Maybe she’ll have some ideas about how to make it better, or maybe you’ll hate them. You must remember that this is your day. I’m sure what you want will be beautiful. Perhaps peoples input will make these things even more amazing. If not, go with YOUR instinct/ideas. At the end of the day, she’s not getting married – you are. Remember that. Unfortunately weddings always seem to end up about everyone else, it’s up to you to put a stop to that where you can, but there can always be compromise too. What if you told your mom how you’re feeling? Would she be understanding? If you’re feeling torn about decisions, post them here, we can help you with insight and advice! Most importantly we can help you see you’re not alone, I bet almost everyone on here has felt this way somewhere along the journey.
Post # 4
@raisedonrobbery: right there with you sister. After finding out our event is possibly canceled … we’re looking into elopement now… not the way we wanted to do it but we are.
Post # 5
I felt this way alot during my planning. We are also doing things differently than tradition. We looked into going away to get married but decided to have the wedding. Our biggest issue was Future Mother-In-Law and our guest list. We wanted a smaller wedding than she did. She has helped to pay some for the wedding and cut some on the guest list. Luckily, its all coming together the closer it gets.
Just make sure you do what you really want to!!! You will want to be able to look back and be happy with the decisions you made for YOUR wedding! Good luck and have fun with it!!! 🙂
Also, I am using mason jars for centerpeices!!:)
Post # 6
@raisedonrobbery: I can relate my wedding is in a few weeks and it has been a roller coaster. my mom was super stressing me out the last straw was after she saw no big deal to 5 strangers who werent invited wanting to come to the wedding with family members i finally told her that i wasn’t enjoying it , i wasn’t having fun and why, she got it and kind of backed off….but in a way she still doesn’t get it…weddings make people so crazy for so many diffrent reasons and most of it is the emotion if i had a do over i think i would have insisted on a destination wedding!
Post # 7
oh man I didn’t have as much stress as you have, but if I really could have done it .. I would have eloped. So much easier than planning for a number of guests. But of course, had I done that, my ILs and parents would have come down on us hard. Still don’t care though … I would have preferred to elope.