(Closed) Wedding stress…thinking too much?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
36 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

I just wanted to offer you some support and hope you maanged to get some sleep. Getting yourself all panicked this early in the process will make you miserable and a nervous wreck by the time the wedding comes around. I know it’s hard as i’ve had to deal with most of the issues you talk about in one way or another, her’s how i smoothed things over….

1) Drifted apart with Maid/Matron of Honor early in planning. I got myslef all bitter and twisted about this one. It would have been hurtful at the best of times but during wedding planning when you’re emotional and need your freinds the most, it sucked! I stewed for about two months, couldn’t sleep and eventually just spoke to her about how i was feeling. It turns out she had some stuff going on in her life that she didnt particularly want to share, but had distanced herself from a lot of friends, not just me. I’ve tried to be supportive but not intrusive and gradually, things are improving. I felt better for voicing my concerns.

2) Can you nominate someone to watch the alcoholics? My Mum is a very heavy drinker and is a really bad drunk. is violent, abusive, and nasty to be around after one too many. She has caused a scene at every family gathering we’ve been to. I don’t think my wedding will be any exception. I just have to remind msyelf that the day is not about her and ignore any bad behaviour as much as i can. My brother is going to keep an eye on her as best he can and they have a room booked at the hotel we’re marrying in, so i’m hoping she can be carted off to bed when she’s had too much!!

Your future sister in law. Can you find some time between now and the wedding to have a couple of ‘get togethers’ so she gets to know the other BM’s? Just coffee, or a film or something. My BM’s are from all over the place and from different parts in my life. I’ve spent the last year having the odd BBQ, DVD night etc just to get them familiar. It works!!

i giuess the only thing i can say is that you can’t control others’ behaviour. It’s especially difficult with family. We’ve had to ask my sister in law to be, not to steal the centrepieces as they are hired!! I’m determined to not let other people spoil our wedding day, and enjoy myself with those that are not socially retarded!! Your guests will know there are certain ‘obligatory’ invites at every wedding. If your brother in law behaves like an ass, try and stay calm, have him removed, and carry on with your party girl! xx

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