(Closed) Wedding stuff–what are you NOT doing?

posted 9 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I have said this about a thousand times….lol. No seating charts, no menu cards, no garter toss and not bouquet toss. I might change my mind on the last two. No Grooms cake……what’s the purpose?? LOL

Post # 4
2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re not doing any of those. Nor are we doing a First Dance. But we are providing really pretty note cards for guests to leave notes to go into our wine box, and that means we’re doing a wine box 🙂 and we’re having a peanut butter chocolate wedding cake and an open bar. w00t!!

Oh and we’re requesting guests take home the centerpeices.

Post # 5
1651 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re not doing:

Bouquet / guarder toss

No cake, -pie for th. Groom I am wheat, dairy, and egg intolerant-

No limo

No cocktail hour

No caterer, family is taking care of the food, it’s important for my health that I know exactly how it’s prepared I can’t risk getting ill that day.

No first dance

Post # 6
1874 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

NO bridesmaid luncheon

NO limo (using my mom’s coupe for just me and FI)

NO headtable (sweetheart table)

NO open bar (cocktails and beer only)

NO cake topper (I cant stand em!!! Flowers instead)

We are doing cupcakes instead of a traditional cake and I also don’t like the anniversary cake idea either… that’s disgusting to me, especially when Fiance and I don’t even like cake!

Post # 7
306 posts
Helper bee

No garter toss, no printed programs, no seating chart, no veil, no high heels, no send-off 

Post # 8
6533 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

No menu cads (people will have to RSVP their choice), no garter toss probably, fake instead of real flowers, no heels for me…

Post # 9
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Im not doing:

  • Garter/bouquet toss.
  • Programs or menus (its buffett style, only 60 guests)
  • No grooms cake
  • No viel
  • No flower girl
  • No limo
  • No bridal shower/bachlorette party.

Post # 10
23 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

Mine is very similar to the other posts, however I can add that we are not doing corsages for the mothers or boutonnieres!  I prefer pocket squares anyway!

Post # 11
1884 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

So far we’re not doing:

  • menus
  • grooms cake
  • veil (i might have a bidcage if I can find one I’m in love with)
  • no flowergirl
  • no limo
  • no showers or engagement parties
  • no videographer
  • no send-off (we’ll be partying till 2am!)
  • no headtable- sweethearts only!
  • no liquor (beer & wine only)
  • no cake at all (doing cupcake instead)
  • no prayers or religious injections
  • no seating chart (although i may change my mind & do assigned tables instead)
  • no bachelorette/bachelor parties

Post # 12
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No garter toss / but yes bouquet toss (my Fiance has multiple twentysomething neices)

No first dance

No gap between ceremony & reception: we’re doing as many photos as possible beforehand.

No favours


I’m sure there is more, but that’s what I can think of right now.

Post # 13
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Not doing:

  • bridal shower
  • flower girl
  • bouquet toss
  • garter toss
  • cake topper
  • send-off

Post # 14
48 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

We are getting married in our backyard we r not doing

  • Garter/ bouquet toss

  • Send off

  • High heels

  • Real flowers 

  • Menu

  • Matching bridesmaids

  • Same number bms and gm

  • veil (flower crown for me )

 also having a Maid of honor AND a Matron of honor

Post # 15
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We skipped the garter toss and attached a “thank you for coming” giftcard to my toss bouquet and made it a bouquet toss for everyone!  It was a long shot and I was afraid of that, but it was actually a big hit!  Smile

Post # 16
11 posts

The most notable traditional thing that we are skipping is dancing at the reception. Neither of us are big dancers, and we are having an outdoor wedding so we are doing lawn games instead! Later on in the evening we will have a bonfire. 🙂

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