(Closed) Wedding stuff–what are you NOT doing?

posted 9 years ago in Traditions
Post # 32
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We aren’t doing:

  • Cocktail hour.
  • No alcohol at all.
  • No limo
  • No fancy car 
  • No garter toss
  • No bouquet toss
  • No grooms cake.. im  not even sure why or what that is…
  • No flower girl. ring bearer
  • bridesmaids lunch
  • No menu cards
  • no programs.

Post # 33
1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@out4answers:  The grooms cake thing is Southern.

Post # 34
33 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

We just got married on August 25 (yay!!!) and didn’t do the following:

  • no limo/fancy car
  • no programs
  • no flower petal/rice/etc. toss
  • no bridal party dance (just him and i, and me and my dad)
  • no garter/bouquet toss
  • no seating chart
  • no menu cards
  • no favors (we donated that money to a local charities)

I wouldn’t have changed one single thing!  We had a beautiful wedding that was very “US”! =)

Post # 35
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

No garter or bouquet toss, no cake or grooms cake (cupcakes instead), no flower girl, no ring bearer, no limo, no sides, no paired bm and gm down the aisle.

Post # 36
835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


  • bridesmaids/groomsmen


  • limo


  • flower girl (no kids)


  • no gater/ bouquet toss


  • no program

Having a small wedding. Ceremony/pictures/reception will all be at the same venue. No need for transportation. Not to mention its a 1880s hotel which we’ll be staying there too. 

Post # 37
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

There’s so many things we’re not doing but of the main traditions:

  • No bouquet/garter toss
  • No ring bearer/flower girl
  • No father-daughter/bridal party/mother-son etc dancing
  • No cake cutting
  • No fancy transport
  • No head table
  • No send-off
  • No videographer
  • No dj/band
  • Potentially scrapping – first dance, assigned seating, favors.


Post # 38
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

no menus, no cake, no sweetheart table. I’m totally fine with it 🙂

Post # 39
1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

no Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man. we have 2 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen

no bouquet toss or garter toss

no cake smash

no daddy daughter dance

no cutting the cake. no point we are serving cupcakes

no ring bearer (i dont understand the role?)


Post # 40
1845 posts
Buzzing bee

  • no BMs, Maid/Matron of Honor or Best man
  • no ring bearer or flower girl
  • no printed invitations, programs, escort cards etc
  • no dance floor (outdoor wedding and it’d be too expensive 🙁 )
  • no indoor portion of the wedding
  • no caterer, family is cooking food and barbecuing day of (July 4 wedding)
  • no bouquet or garter toss 
  • the flowers will be DIY and made of coffee filters so no real flowers
  • no seating chart
  • no bridal shower, bachelor party, bachelorette party, engagement shower etc
  • no open bar or alcohol provided at all. BYOB.
  • no getaway car
  • NO PORK! i’m vegan and will allow meat but no damn pork. I hate pork, if you didn’t notice 😉
  • I WILL allow people to wear whatever they want, including white. it’ll be July and I want my guests to be comfortable
  • no taking home centerpieces bc I want to sell them after the wedding

Post # 41
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mspartridge:  I was the same.  I think these things are for more fancy weddings… which our was not!


Post # 42
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@S2013:  I had a question about how you are having a first dance but no other dancing. My cousin did this and everyone found it insanely awkward how they were able to do a nice slow dance (she also had a father daughter/mother son dance) but then nobody else was able to. I guess we all thought that it would be nice to be able to dance to at least slow songs. idk..i guess that I see if you aren’t big into dancing then why even do a first dance? just my opinion of course. I’m not close enough to my cousin to ask why she did this. 

Post # 43
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

– No ring bearer or flower girl

– No favors – having a sundae bar at the end of the evening

– No guest book

– No bouquet toss or garter toss

– No limos – using Lincoln Town Cars instead

– No father/daughter dance – long story

– No rap/hip hop music – Fiance requested that one lol

– Hopefully if I’m lucky, no unhappy, ungrateful, sour-faced relatives/guests – LOL


Post # 44
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

As of now, we won’t have:

  • menus (you get what you get and you don’t upset)
  • programs (what the hell, if you can’t follow along during our 30-40 min ceremony..then um…why are you there)
  • veil (I’m leaning towards a birdcage)
  • no flowergirl
  • no ringbearer
  • no limo
  • no engagement party
  • no videographer
  • no liquor (beer & wine only)
  • no prayers or religious injections
  • no seating chart (I’m hoping for a group of approx 40 of family & friends sit wherever you like)
  • garter/bouquet toss
  • Im debating on even having favors

Wow..that is a long list. 

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