(Closed) wedding talk when FI is mourning over his dog….

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What to do?
    Reschedule and then let him know about it later : (9 votes)
    16 %
    Ask him if he still wants to go : (42 votes)
    75 %
    Remind him of the appointment, and nothing else : (5 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    9732 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Oh, that’s so sad, I’m so sorry.  It’s so hard losing a pet, they’re family members.  Been there!

    If it were me, I’d go ahead and reschedule with the photographer so as to give your Fiance some grieving time over losing his canine friend.  I’m sure they’ll understand.

    Post # 4
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    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    remind him like 3 days before

    Post # 5
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    3691 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I’d reschedule it.  I doubt you fiance is up to handling that kind of appointment right now.

    Post # 6
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    366 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I would just ask him if he wants to reschedule. Maybe he will want something to do to take his time off the mourning. It never hurts to ask.

    Post # 7
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    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    So sorry!  I would ask him about it.  It’s possible he’ll want to go to talk about something happy or to take his mind off it.

    Post # 9
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    366 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Closer to the appointment. But not so close that its super last minute if you have to reschedule.

    Post # 10
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    650 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @violet25:  I would ask him around Monday-ish. Give him a few more days and then gently say, “We have a meeting Thursday. If you are not feeling up to it I will gladly reschedule”. He would probably appreciate the option.

    Post # 11
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    The loss of a pet is definitely hard but life goes on. If it were me, I would just mention the appointment and see if he feels up to going. He’ll probably feel better by next week anyway but if he tells you he’s not really feeling it then reschedule. 

    Post # 12
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    1695 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I would just reschedule it.  I lost a pet while wedding planning and the last thing I wanted to do was wedding stuff.  I asked my husband to let his mom know that I just wasn’t up for it.  I let them all know when I was ready. 

    Also, I just want to send my condolensces.  I am so sorry for your loss.

    Post # 13
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    310 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I’m sorry to hear that! I’m sure you guys will see him again someday!

    I would just tell him this weekend that we are actually having an appointment with the photographer but I will reschedule it to whenever he’s ready. 

    In a way, he’s informed about the meeting with the photographer and he would either be glad that you are pushing back the appointment (as he’s not ready) or if he feels he can, he would tell you not to reschedule it. 

    Post # 14
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    4325 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    If he is trying to stay busy, this is a good way to do it. Go on with the appointment.

    Post # 15
    Member
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Let him decide. Offer to go alone, or to reschedule. It’s really hard losing a pet and sometimes getting out of the house is a good thing, but don’t make the decision for him.

    Post # 16
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    986 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    When is the wedding.  If you absolutely don’t need to do it next week I would reschedule.  But let him know. The loss of a pet is Hard.  I’m still not over my golden retriever getting cancer last year. 

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