(Closed) Wedding Thank You Card Help!

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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47254 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sweet14 :  Are you using these pre-printed cards to thank people for gifts, or for attending the wedding? You need to write a personal note of thanks to everyone who gave you a gift. Sending them only a blank card with a few pre-printed words is the height of laziness. You can write those personal, thoughtful words on the same card.

Post # 3
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6271 posts
Bee Keeper

Can’t you just write a little personal note for each person on the inside of the card and sign your names?

Post # 4
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3332 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

You should not send everyone the same generic card. You should write a personal thank you to each guest for their gift. Write it on the card (not an index card?) and sign it.

Post # 5
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1447 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

You need to write a personalized card for everyone that gave you a gift. Those that just attended can get the generic card if you so choose. Its considered rude and lazy not to personalize thank you notes.

Post # 6
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1292 posts
Bumble bee

Adding another voice to the don’t send generic pre-printed cards for wedding gifts camp. It’s incredibly rude.

Post # 7
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925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island

order the cards with your picture and a blank inside.  write something to every guest.  you can add a little extra to those guests you think went the extra mile, but everyone gets a hand-written thank you.

pre-printed thankyou cards are kind of a bummer to receive, imho.  it makes me feel like the couple believes the time and $$ i dedicated to celebrating with them was my civic duty, rather than meaningful time spent with people I care about.

Post # 8
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2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

While little preprinted notes are fine, they should always be accompanied by a personal handwritten note. It would be fine to just write them on the actual card, an extra insert isn’t necessary. 

Post # 9
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1447 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Also, please please please don’t write a note on an index card. That’s really tacky and you don’t want to end the guest experience for them on such a sour note.

Post # 11
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3332 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

If its a card like you would buy in a store, there are usually 2 sides in the middle. The right side has the pre-printed message. Write on the left side.

Also, these people spent money and time to buy you a gift, and your excuse is that you had TOO many people buy you gifts to write them a note? That’s some first world BS there!

Post # 12
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

It’s definitely better if you personalize. My husband and I split them so I didn’t have to do all. People won’t care if his handwriting is poor (mine definitely is) because it’s the thought that counts!

Post # 13
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2628 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

You really need to write a personal note to everyone who gave a gift.  Being busy is no excuse.  I’m sure there is room on the other side of the card for a personal note.  (Also, it doesn’t matter if your husband’s handwriting is bad.  He can still write half of them)

I would be very offended if I gave a gift, and the couple was too lazy to write a personal note in the thank you.  That’s just rude.

Post # 14
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2942 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

sweet14 :  I wrote just as many thank you cards while working full time and going for my masters.  Pre printed thank you cards with nothing personal is going to get you talked about behind your back (sorry not sorry). Especially if you spent the money to get them with your picture on them.  Trust me, my mom brought up how she hopes a friends daughter doesn’t do this like her sister, 3 years after sisters wedding.  

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Order 200 new cards if the printed ones don’t have any blank space left. Each one of those guests took their time and money to buy you a gift. You owe them each a heartfelt, personal Thank You. Do a few a night, every night, get them done. No excuses. If your husband has bad handwriting, then you do the writing and he signs and does the envelope-stuffing and stamps.

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