(Closed) Wedding Thank You Card Help!

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
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5013 posts
Bee Keeper

You literally used up every square inch of space within the entire card?   I find this hard to believe.  I have purchased cards with entire multi- verse poems written inside and there is still always room to put a sentence or two.  Everyone should have a personalized thank you.  These are people who took time out of their schedules and used their hard earned money to give you a gift and celebrate with you.  It is the very least you can do.  

Either find a way to fit it in or purchase new cards and eat the costs of your ill purchased first set.  And tell your husband to write slowly.  Everyone is busy.  Your busy is not more special than anyone else’s.  Set aside 20 minutes a night and do 5- 10 per night until they are done.

Post # 17
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3679 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Does your preprinted thank you card thank the guests for the gifts they took the time and money to give you? Personalize the thank you cards. Everyone is busy. 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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sweet14 :  I’m sorry but that is kind of a lame/invalid excuse and has made me question whether or not you were uninformed or just flat out lazy… Everyone is busy. We all have lives but yet we all set aside time to be gracious hosts and unless your prefilled cards are jam-packed, I’m sure there is more than enough room to write in a little thank you. I highly doubt anyone will care about your DHs handwriting, but if this is really an issue for you, divide tasks and let him fill envelopes and place stamps/return address labels.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

if your handwritten message won’t fit on the card then buy some pretty stationary and write your personal note on that to fold and include in the card. That is what I would do 🙂

Post # 20
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Honestly, you need to scrap the ones you got already and get blank ones. You just CANNOT send out pre-printed thank you notes without seeming rude and ungreatful. Being busy or having bad handwriting is absolutely not an excuse. It sucks, I know. Writing thank you notes is a huge pain but its a part of the wedding. These people did something for you and you need to write them a personalized note.

Post # 21
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47438 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Everybody is busy. Stop trying to make excuses. Your guests live busy lives and they took the time to find, purchase and deliver a gift.

If you truly do not have any blank space left on a 4 sided card (which I find difficult to envision), write your notes on a plain piece of stationery (not an index card) and slip it inside the card.

Post # 22
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I would rather receive NO card than a preprinted one (and I have received this before). Write 5-10 a day and you’ll be done in a month. 

Post # 23
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I think you should scrap the preprinted thank you notes.  Hand writing a short personalized message is a great way to show your guests that you’ve thought about them for a few minutes and are not merely fulfilling an obligation.  As previous posters have said, you can write a few a day.  I like your idea of including a photo of each couple.

Post # 24
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Newbee

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sweet14 :  I JUST got a generically worded, pre-printed thank you card in the mail and can’t get over how freaking rude it is. You seriously can’t take the time to write each guest a personalized note and thank them for their specific gift?  

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee

You took the time to plan your wedding and you got it done even though you are busy. You can take the time to write out personal thank you cards.  trust the ladies on the board. Just because a friend did it doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do. You can even hire someone to do it for you. There are professional services available for this. You could even ask a friend with good penmenship.  There is just no excuse!

Post # 26
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700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think the point of “Write a personal note in the card” has been driven home, and appropriately so. 

In order to save a little time, I pre-addressed, pre-stamped, and pre-address labelled my thank you cards for my wedding shower. My shower was on the 30th of October (and therefore in the middle of packing time), and we moved houses on the 1st of November, and I still managed to write all the cards (I literally wrote top-to-bottom in all of the cards) in 3 days and send them all out within a week of the shower. And our wedding is at the end of this month.

Also, if you have 200 guests, you likely don’t need to write 200 thank you cards, since many guests are probably couples, or families. That should cut down on the time you anticipate writing cards for. 

Post # 27
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Every guest should receive a hand written thank you. Anything less than that is pure laziness.   No one cares about a card with your picture on it or some generic message you typed once into a computer to be printed on the card.  People who put time, money, and effort into coming to your wedding and got you a gift deserve more than an effortless pre-printed note with no personalization.  I’d rather not receive a thank you at all, if that’s the level of effort put into it.

Honestly, I received a pre-printed thank you from a wedding recently, and I can’t even count how many times it’s come up as a joke in conversation by other guests. 

Post # 28
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2200 posts
Buzzing bee

Sorry but you should be writing a personal note to everyone and you are behind schedule – time to make this a priority.  Split them up with your husband.

Post # 29
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593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

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sweet14 :  Sorry. People took the time to come to your wedding and buy you a gift.  You NEED to send them a personal note. 

 

By by the way. I am sure they have very busy lives too!

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

 

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sweet14 :  🙄 you’re right. None of the rest of us are busy, we just sit around dying to write thank you cards in all our spare time. I’m sure none of your guests are busy and had to take time out of their schedules to go and buy you a gift, purchase a new outfit, and attend your wedding either. Write the damn personal note. 

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