Post # 1
So FI have a tentative hold on October 12th which is the Sunday before Columbus Day. My MOH pointed out that not everyone gets this day off. She doesn’t but would take the next day off. I don’t want my guest list to drop down or for people to leave early. I know I can’t control people’s schedules obviously.
any advice? Any one else with th same date? As a guest how would you feel about that date. It’s in the area of our families and FIs friends but 45 minutes from my friends. It’s at a hotel and we have rooms blocked off if that helps any.
Post # 3
@BeeinBoston: I don’t have that day off, most schools and jobs don’t in my area. I woulda say, in my area, the people that have it off are in minority. That being said, if you were family I saw fairly often I would still attend, especially if I am that close. I mean 45 min is nothing. I drive that every Sunday to play soccer.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
It’s not a day I get off work anymore either, I used to when I worked for federal gov, but no longer and I really don’t know anyone else who gets the day off either. Seems to vary regionally though, sometimes if you’re in an area with a lot of federal offices more people are likely to also get the day off – this was the case at my previous job/location.
So, I’d just treat it as a Sunday wedding and nothing else…if you were a close friend or family member I would just take the Monday off of work and attend. If you were not very close to me, I’d still attend but plan to leave early so I could get home and to bed at a reasonable time for work the next day.
Post # 5
I don’t get Columbus Day off, and I think it’s the same for my other private sector friends. I’m not sure if my public sector friends get the day off. But, I usually end up taking a long weekend to attend weddings anyway. If it’s on a Sunday, I’d just end up using Monday as a travel day instead of Friday. I wouldn’t treat it like a holiday weekend wedding, but I also don’t think a Sunday wedding would be a big issue for you anyway since most of your guests are less than 1 hour away. Personally, I’d keep the date you have and book the venue.
Post # 6
Columbus Day is getting to be observed less and less around the country — while it is observed widely in New England, it isn’t in the rest of the country.
To be honest, though, I don’t like Sunday weddings and probably wouldn’t give up a long holiday weekend unless it was someone I’m really close to. If it was local, I’d go and probably leave early if I had to work.
Post # 7
thanks ladies. I’m one of those people that have been trying to make it as easy for my guests as possible. im so stressed out!
Post # 8
@abbie017: we aren’t planning on inviting anyone we are not close to so hopefully people will want to stay and celebrate with us. I appreciate the input though!
Post # 9
I don’t get it off too and would probably want to leave early-ish to go to work the next day. Have you thought about maybe doing a mid day wedding?
My husband gets very few vacation days too so he can’t really afford to take the next day off.
Post # 10
@BeeinBoston: I think any time you have a Sunday wedding you run the risk of having guests leave early. As long as you realize you’re not going to have guests partying all night with you like it’s a Friday night or Saturday night, I think you’re fine having it on a Sunday.
Post # 11
the wedding coordinator emailed me to tell me the Saturday before just opened up! Yay!! Fingers crossed that it works out, FI is in a meeting and I don’t want to make such a bug decision without consulting with him.