(Closed) Wedding Timeline or Planning Guide Lines? Dress Hunting… General help…

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

First thing to work on is the # of guests and know your budget. This will help you determine if you need to cut # of guests, and this will help you determine what venues can hold the # of guests you are having. 

For the dress, if you are going to a boutique, you should allow about 8 months from the wedding to order. You can always do a rush fee, you may find something on the rack, so the 8 months is not set in stone but a general rule of thumb

As for going alone, not weird. I worked at a bridal store and honestly the people that bring a huge crowd are the worst! The consultant should be there to help you find a dress that is flattering and you love, not just trying to make the sale. 

so budget is first. Guest list # and venue (some book really far in advance), dress. I would say those are the first things to tackle. 

Post # 4
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t think there is anything wrong with trying on dresses solo. The people who work there would be happy to have you try on dresses and talk to you about them. You can always ask the associates to take photos for you to share online with your Mom (and us here at weddingbee! We love dress photos!)

Does your Fiance have any close female relations? Even if I barely knew a brother or cousins Fiance I would be happy to do wedding stuff together and get to know her better.

Post # 5
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@rcorral:  grab the latest issue of the knot or google any wedding related website. most of them have suggested timelines. you can also buy wedding planning books to help guide you (i would only buy one. most of them all say the same thing).

i planned my entire wedding by myself using all of the above resources. it’s definitely doable!

Post # 6
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I also don’t have a lot of girl friends and kind of wish I did so I could have that whole bridal party experience. My Maid/Matron of Honor and one other girl friend live out of province and country, respectively, so I won’t really be seeing them for all the planning I’ll have to do. If you have some long time guy friends, ask them to go with you! Seriously, if I had asked my guy friends, they would have definitely come dress shopping!

Post # 7
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@rcorral:  the knot has a great wedding checklist if you sign up!

I say you should start right away if you want to get married in Dec 2013 and want to get your preffered vendors – a lot fill up between 1-2 years out.

We had a 13 month engagement and started planning right away – literally had our date picked and venue booked the day we were engaged (we already knew the venue so that was easy).  In the first month we booked all of the big vendors – photographer, videographer, make up artist, hair stylist, etc. The next thing I did was the dress – I went to 2 or 3 stores with my friend just to find styles I like without the pressure of my mom!  Then, at the 11 month mark I went shopping with my mom and picked and ordered my dress.  

After all that was done, there was a bit of a lull in planning.  For the next few months we pretty much just picked out our save the dates and put our guest list together and sent them out.  

Then, about 6 months out planning picked up again – bridesmaids dresses, picked our menu and designed our cake, etc.  

Now that we are 3 months out we are finalizing all the little details.  It’s a lot of work but if you use checklists and plan everything out month by month you will stay on track and get it all done! 🙂

Good luck and happy planning!

Post # 8
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

For me the order was:

guest list

budget and theme /colors


buy dress

photographer and videographer


Start buying and making decorations and centerpieces

 band and music

secure officiant

wedding accessories

bridsmaid and mother of bride dresses

revise guest list

create and send Save-The-Date Cards

work on ceremony details

still working on decorations (DIY heavy)

Groom and groomsmen wear


Post # 9
3340 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Here’s the timeline that my wedding planner shared with me.  I hope it helps!  Also keep in mind that some vendors book up quicker than others, depending on where you’re getting married and in what season.  If you get married on a weekday or an off-season month (November through April), you can put some things off because chances are vendors won’t be booked.  But if you live in a major metropolitan city, things can be booked even 1.5 to 2 years before!!


11 Months:

-Choose venues for ceremony & reception

-Choose photographer & videographer

-Choose caterer

-Begin dress search for wedding gown and bridesmaids


10 Months:

-Order wedding dress

-Reserve room blocks for guests

-Choose DJ or band


10-9 Months:

-Finalize guest list and mailing addresses

-Order and mail Save the Dates

-Choose florist (I actually didn’t do this until 6 months before!  Oops!)

-Choose transportation


8-6 Months:

-Research and choose invitation

-If necessary, update passports (Note: If you’re changing your name, you’ll probably still be going on your honeymoon with your maiden name since there won’t be time to update the passport).

-Register for gifts

-Choose hair and makeup stylists

-Schedule rehearsal dinner location


5 Months:

-Confirm that each bridesmaid has ordered her dress

-Select attire for flower girl and ring bearer

-Finalize invitation design and order wedding invitations; don’t forget to order extra envelopes!

-Select first dance and other special dance songs

-Order wedding rings

-Reserve tuxedos for groom, dads, and groomsmen


4 Months:

-Order wedding favors

-Order wedding programs, menu cards, escort cards, etc.


3-2 Months:

-Mail wedding invitations

-Keep a record of RSVP cards you receive

-Select gifts for attendants and parents

-Send photo shot list to photographer

-Send play and do not play lists to band/DJ

-Pick up wedding rings

-Assemble welcome baskets for out-of-town guests (this can be skipped if you have a lower budget).


1 Month:

-Give caterer your final head count

-Finalize day of timeline

-Distribute wedding day timeline and contact list to vendors and bridal party

-Confirm wedding day beauty appointments


2 Weeks:

-Pick up wedding dress from bridal salon AND TRY IT ON BEFORE YOU LEAVE!!!

-Have groom and groomsmen pick up their tuxedos

-Give ceremony and reception location managers a vendor contact sheet

-Confirm wedding day details with all vendors

-Pay any remaining balances to vendors


1 Week:

-Pack for honeymoon

-Prepare tips for vendors

-Drop off ceremony accessories at ceremony site – programs, unity candle, etc.

-Give attendant and parents thank you gifts

-Give hotels welcome baskets

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