(Closed) Wedding Timelines!!! Help is this good or no?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

thats really late for dinner. in my opinion i would be ticked if i had to wait 7 plus hours for food. if the wedding starts at 3 i would expect to eat at5 or 6 at the latest.. could u move your formal pictures ahead of the ceremony??

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I would expect many people to leave the ceremony but never meet back up with you all. If your family and people you aren’t inviting to dinner are big partiers it looks okay. Some of the ‘events’ seem very late to me.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@shannonmykayla:  Are you sure that everyone is going to be around for these “events?” I, too, am concerned with how late things are “planned.” A friend of mine had a wedding of over 200 people but by the time the dessert buffet was rolled out (at 10:30pm), there was *maybe* 25 people left. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t know how much of an effort people will make to come back out 4hrs later for a dessert buffet… that will last until 1a.  Unless you have a lot of people who just really love to dance/party, I don’t feel like some people would come back out.  Depends on your crowd, though.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it sounds like a long day, too, and I, as a guest, would be exhausted and probably not be having a lot of fun by the end. I don’t really know how you could rearrange it, though, since you’re having dinner at 5 pm, there’s really no other way to fit in all the things you have planned.

And, yeah, I’m not saying I don’t like to party once in a while, but when the excitement starts at 3 p.m. I’d be out by 10!!

I also probably wouldn’t go to an after reception if I were expected to go get my own dinner between a ceremony & reception. That’s just me, though. You know your guests and how late they’re willing to be up and what they’re willing to do. If you think they’ll be cool with your timeline, then, more power to you!! It does all sound like a lot of fun. What has the reaction been of guests that you’re doing a 2 tiered reception?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’ve been to weddings that have gone very late (~ 1-2am) and none have them have had enough people left for any “grand exit”, so you should keep that in mind. Also, I’d put out the buffet at the beginning of the reception, I don’t really see any reason for it to be later.

ETA: I’d also do the bouquet and garter toss back-to-back, since those 2 events normally go together.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@shannonmykayla:  I would do the boquet and garter before you open up the dance floor, you can save your last dance for the end. Personally I would cut the cake right after dinner.

Different people do different things and if how you have it written is what works for people in your family and the region you’re in thats fine too πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Newbee

I’ve been to weddings like that and don’t see a problem with it – as long as the guests know up front that they are on their own for dinner so they can plan ahead, especially if they are unfamiliar with the area.  I think a timeline at the venue is a great idea too!  That way people know what to expect and the night will have a flow to it.  Our wedding officially ended at midnight but we all stayed at the hotel lounge area until 1:30 or 2…even the grandparents!  You know your guests and what they will enjoy.  Go with your gut! πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee

My concern is that everyone would leave early.  I know I would, even if I was *in* the wedding!  11 pm is about my limit lol.  I’m just worried you wouldn’t have very many people left to see you off, and even if they RSVP for the reception, there’s no way to RSVP for how long they’ll stay.  Also I know you mentioned the dinner would be earlier and elsewhere, but even with finger foods eating at 10 pm isn’t ideal.  And in my experience with weddings, finger foods and desserts, even though they’re snacky, tend to still be reasonably heavy.  I just think most people would rather eat earlier.  Instead of having the long break, how about having the “ordurvs” (I knew I’d spell that wrong so I didn’t even try :P) and desserts at the normal dinner hours and writing “reception with light/heavy ordurves to follow” on the invitations so people will know it’s not going to be a full dinner and they can get something on the drive over if they’re hungry?  That’s what my friend did at her wedding and it went fine, and the food was a lot better than standard wedding fair!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I think you’re going to have a lot of declines and dropoff (people coming to the ceremony only, if attending at all).  Out of Town guests will not want to travel if you aren’t going to fully and properly host them.  I’d shift the entire timing so that the ceremony is directly before the reception and the reception is still a later affair, so people will know to get food beforehand, or nix the 50 person dinner and use that money towards a food upgrade for all of your guests.

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