(Closed) Wedding Toasts. Can we keep them limited?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m having ONE. Can you cut it down to one person toasting you, thanking all the guests for comming, and be done with it? I’m having the step dad do it for us.


I don’t like toasts at weddings.. and I would be bored with 8?


How about asking people to make toasts at the rehearsal instead? That would make the rehearsal a little more fun?

Post # 4
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had three- Matron of Honor, Best Man and my dad. 

I agree with above that it seems like overkill. I would also have them make toasts at the rehearsal dinner instead and maybe limit the reception to 2 or 3 people. No more than 4. 

Post # 6
6474 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

We did…

the two dads
Mr. Jaguar
best man
maid of honour

They kept them short & sweet and it worked a treat!

Can you give the others a different time to do a speech or reading: like at your rehearsal dinner or during the ceremony instead?

Post # 7
5789 posts
Bee Keeper

Is it a Canadian thing? I’ve never seen any more than the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor give a toast and a small thank you from the B&G…Keep it as simple as possible is my motto!

Post # 8
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

Yes, you can definitely cut it down!  I’m sure all of your guests would be grateful.  Plus, you don’t want to waste precious time where everyone would rather be mingling or dancing!  Have you thought about asking some people to make their toasts at the rehearsal?

Post # 9
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You might want to read this post I made about a month ago. It’s about speeches from a guest’s perspective.




It’s great that you already cut it down but maybe you could have the DJ put a cap on it? I’m not sure how that would work but it would stop you from being the bad guy.

Post # 11
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You say your father and his father need toasts… do they want to make toasts or are you assuming they’d want to? Maybe the don’t. Or maybe you could each ask your dad yo keep it down to a minute or two. Also ask your Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man to keep it on the shorter side. I would say no one else needs to toast though… I find toasts at weddings to be very boring, personally, especially for people who don’t get all the inside jokes with the closest family and friends.

Post # 12
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d cut it down to just your maid of honor and best man. If any of your parents are hosting the wedding, they should get a short welcome toast; if not, cut them at your discretion. Any more than four toasts and your guests will get bored, guaranteed. It doesn’t matter if you space them out, either, people will still sit there thinking, “ANOTHER one?”

Your best bet is to designate someone (DJ, MC, whoever) to be in charge of the mike, and make sure they’re ruthless so that people can’t just keep grabbing it for more toasts.

Post # 13
4801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah that is WAY too many people. Ours was very simple and worked well – my parents were hosting (aka paying for) the wedding, so my dad made a speech at the start to thank everyone for coming. You may not be able to get around both dads making speeches if they’re both helping to pay. Then after dinner the best man and maid of honor made a speech. There is absolutely no reason for all of the parents to make speeches! And it’s  your FI’s job to explain that to his mother.

And make it VERY clear to your DJ to not give the mic to anyone that is not on your list.

Post # 14
111 posts
Blushing bee

For those of you who already had your wedding, did you ask your Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor to limit their toasts to X minutes? I already have a disagreement with my future SIL who wants “speeches” from his brother and best friend. I told him everything that needs to be said can be said in 3 minutes. This is not an occasion to reveal your personal relationships and that the guests couldn’t care less.

Post # 15
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m sorry, sixteen toasts is waaaaay too many.  Cut it back as much as possible, and have your DJ in charge of keeping everyone moving and have him also pass the mic around so only those who are supposed to toast get to.

Post # 16
7371 posts
Busy Beekeeper

That is an insane number. I’d be bored to tears.

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