Post # 1
My mom has cancer and is starting chemo this Wednesday. Our wedding is today and my fiance woke up sick with a cold. I was planning on having my mom sit at our table right across from us. Do you think I should move her to another table since my fiance is sick? I want her to sit with us, but I don’t want her to get sick when she is about to start chemo? What to do think would be best?
Post # 3
Are you able to ask her, is she nearby? Maybe that would take the stress away from you if she could decide…
Congratulations in the meantime, have a wonderful day!!!
Post # 4
I would check with her, but I too would be cautious about exposing her to your fiance (sorry that sounds clinical and cold…). If she’s ok with it (maybe she can call her doctor real quick?) then go for it, but I would err on the side of caution. You’ll be able to spend lots of time with her today outside of eating at the same table. I wouldn’t want to risk it.
Post # 5
I agree with @wellykiwi I would ask mom how she feels about it~
Post # 6
Thanks for the suggestions. I will ask her if she would rather sit at the other end of the table or a different table considering he is sick. Right across from us just seems to close. I wouldn’t want us to get her sick right before her chemo starts.
Post # 7
I agree–ask her and do what she thinks is best. Maybe pick up some hand sanitizer for your Fiance to keep in his pocket. Poor guy! Have a great wedding 🙂
Post # 8
I 100% agree with the others! Ask your mom what she wants to do! And dont stress about it, I am sure it will turn out fine!
CONGRATS on your big day and good luck!!!! 🙂
Post # 9
She can sit at the same table as you. The period that patients receiving chemotherapy are supposed to stay away from sick people is 7-14 days after the start of their chemotherapy treatment.
Post # 10
waiting bee is absolutely correct! My mom just finished 3 months of Chemo treatments, and there are a couple things to consider. 1. if she does get sick, they would probably give her the chemo anyways, as the virus would be out of her system befor eit was amajor issue (my mom started feeling crappy about 3 days after her chemo, and thats when they advised her to stay away from sick people or 2. If she does get sick, they may opt not to give her the first treatment, or may give her a shot of neupogin, which is an immune booster. My mom always felt much better after chemo when she got the neupogin shots anyways!!!
but definitely talk to her!! enjoy your day whatever you choose to do!!
Post # 11
As a chemo nurse I can tell you that her white counts(the ones that fight ingections) will be at there lowest in about 10 days afer chemo.If she does get sick it really depends on her doctor if they would still give her chemo or not. Some will, some won’t and it also depends on what chemo she is getting (there are many different chemo medications and some effect the immune system more than others). Not all people are eligble to receive medications that boost the white count, that is a very treatment specific medication, not everyone can get it.