- 4 years ago
Was getting my saily fix for WB addiction ;-P and started to realize that although we are all united here on this site, many of us are from different countries and different parts of the world. And there are HUGE cultural differences that get reflected on anything bridal. From the proposal to honeymoon and family.
I thought it would be fun for us to share the fun, different and crazy wedding related traditions in our respective countries.
– My cousin married a Mexican girl and we went to the wedding in Mexico. It was super fun. And two traditions caught my attention.
1. During religious ceremony, they have a big/ beautiful rope, more like a lace that is used to unite the couple as they are being blessed and praying for a life long strong marriage. This rope sometimes is substituted for a big rosary. Sorry English is not my 1st language and that’s the best I could explain 🙁
2. Arras -( Money) . The groom carries 12 coins that he gives the bride as a symbol of his promise to provide for their family. Her acceptance of the coins is a symbol of her commitment to take care of the family, including finances. Some people say it also is a symbol of a humble beggining as newlyweds but as the promise and hope for a better future. The coins are blessed and kept in a tiny box that has sentimental value for the couple.
3. I wan just 13 but I remember all the men did something quite fun with my cousin. I think I remember them lifting him while he was sitting on a chair and while dancing. I recall something about roilet paper rolls flying in the air. That looked fun at the time! Lol. My guess is that was more of a regional thing than a Mexican tradition.
We are a mix of our natives, our Spanish heritage and now being part of the USA and being born American citizens. So it gets a little crazy at times with traditions coming from many places!
1. Men tend to ask for the bride’s hand (dad’s approval). This normally makes guys very nervous and scared. This takes place before the proposal and it is a symbol of respect for the bride’s family .
2. Normally gifts for the couple are given at reception party.
3. Not used often anymore but flower girl was dressed in white and also had a flower “crown”
4. The norm is for bride NOT to change her last name. We keep our names just like we were named when born.
5. We us. TWO last names. Dad and Mom’s. Let’s say you were named Maria Perez Gonzalez (lol chose very common names to make it easier). So you marry and after wedding you are still Maria Perez Gonzalez. When you have kids, the kids will be named um… Laura Arocho (dad’s last name) Perez. Meaning kids have both dad and mom’s last names. And the new families are named after both spouses. Arocho- Perez Family.
My BF is German. He cannot believe that if we get married in the church we don’t have to go to court to make it official.
– Engagement ring is worn on the left hand, wedding band is worn on the RIGHT hand!
– Wedding bands are normally the same bands for his ans hers. Really on the plain/simple side too.
– In Germany you have to go to court or city hall to make marriage legal. It is a small affair w very close family (parents+siblings+best friends maybe) followed by a lunch or dinner. Then another day religious ceremony and wedding reception.
– Groom and bride actually enter church together because they are already married I guess? Lol
and yes, we are very easy going normally and big goofballs so we laugh about mostly all the differences but yes. It can be very shocking at times.
Now, please share your crazy traditions. Or the ones you’ve seen in other weddings! 😀