(Closed) Wedding Traditions you will happily skip!

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Post # 31
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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bayoubee :  LOVE this idea! The idea of the garter toss makes me red in the face but he wants it….this is such an entertaining alternative, he just may go for it!

Post # 32
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I’m skipping a lot of traditions at our wedding:

-bouquet toss and garter toss: because a. I spent $$ on that bouquet and I want to keep it and enjoy it! And most every woman is married or taken who is a guest. And b. no garter toss because Fiance hates the idea of having to do that in front of family and I personally think it’s a little odd. I will still wear one just for him though.

-bachelorette and bachelor party: outdated, and we are not into that scene. We will probably just hang out with family and friends and/or do karaoke/trivia haha. 

-first dance, dancing of any nature, DJ- neither of us dance, and especially not in front of anyone. Our reception will be very low key anyhow. And we don’t want a DJ. Too expensive and unnecessary and I want to pick the background music

-flower girl: we don’t have any young children attending that we are super close to. Our best man is going to be the ring bearer. 

-rice: if anyone throws rice at me I will be pissed! Lol. I have saved some special wedding sparklers for a send off from the guests instead. 

-getaway car: too spendy and uncessary. We have matching Jeeps, that’s good enough! 

-cake face smash: I will have put more time into my appearance that day than ever, so no thank you. I am also sure Fiance doesn’t want cake smashed up his nostrils. Too weird for us. 

I did decide I want my best friend to play the piano (we are both pianists but I can’t play at my own procession) and it will be a piece my Fiance both love. She is also going to play piano for the recession. We are also writing our own vows to add to the traditional vows. 


Post # 33
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Seems like we will be skipping quite a bit….but there is some we are keeping:


– Bouquet/Garter Tosses: Hoping to skip this…really dont love either, but fiance wants to. Saw some great alternatives on here im hoping he will go for.

-– Not seeing each other before the ceremony. We are doing a private first look a) to take some of the weight off the ceremony b) gives us 2 special moments c) can get photos done before, so we can join cocktail hour d)we can get the photos of our pup before he gets all excited at the ceremony!

– Vows : will be writing our own

-Plated meal : having a buffet instead (same good food, just not as formal) 

-Fancy cake : neither of us are really cake people and i definitely didnt want to spend a mortgage payment on a cake, so we are doing a pie and dessert table

-big head table: we are doing a sweetheart table and a kings table that will include the bridal party and their dates so they can all have a good time

-bridal shoes : to my moms dismay i will be barefoot for ceremony and in my cowboy boots the rest of the night…. no sparklu heels for me!

-Formal dress code: want guests to be comfortable, so encouraging a laid back dress code (groomsmen will be in jeans and runners anyways!). Wedding is about us as a couple and we are just not fancy people.

-Only one in white – bridesmaids are in mismatched white dresses

-Ceremony photos – dont know if its really a “tradition” but we are asking guests to put their phones away during ceremony. Dont want to look out to all my loved ones to a sea of cell phones :/

-Farewell exit – Im not leaving the party earlY!!!!! Might get our photographer to sneak the two of us away for a private photo, or do a “just married” photo right after ceremony. We are doing our first dance in the courtyard (twinkle lights) right before dance floor opens, so hoping to get a shot of all the wedding guests then! ANd then it wont be staged!

-MOH/Bestman signing during ceremony – We are having my grandmother and fiances father do te signing. Will mean a lot to them to have a part in the ceremony and MOH/Best man think its great idea!

-Religious ceremony – once agaiin, not fancy or religious people.. will be non denominational and laid back…hoping for lots of laughs!

-No champagne toasts – most people dont like the stuff, so we will toast with whatever drink we are having!

-Receiving line – as a guest, i have always found them forced, uncomfortable and time consuming. Pretty sure i would feel the same at my own wedding… Our first look allows photos to be done ahead, meaning we can mingle and actually converse with our guests during cocktail hour as well as later during reception.

-Not leaving for honeymoon right away – will need a few days to recover from wedding and there will be many out of town guests we would like to visit with first. No rush! 


– Bachelorette & bachelor: neither of us are doing the crazy drunken debauchery with strippers etc…my girls know i would like a cottage weekend/ b&b weekend and he will be doing a trip or cabin…basically an excuse for guys/girls nights

– Bridal Shower: still big tradition in my circle, but i asked for low key and casual.

– Something borrowed, new & blue: no reason, aside from i just think its cute

-White dress and veil – just because its something i dreamed of as a little girl! My dress is not the traditional look (ivory not white) and i dont think i will do the blusher…but dress and veil nonetheless

-Father walking me down the aisle – it is my stepfather and it means alot to both of us. Will ask my mom to join us as well 🙂 

-Specailty dances – Father/daughter and mother/son; means alot to both. I have also rewritten lyrics and had them recorded for the father/daughter dance to suit our unique “step” situation

-Speeches – Asking for them to be informal and short, but i enjoy speeches

-Entrances – Nothing too crazy, but something short and fun


Post # 34
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

We skipped doing:

-My bachelorette (not by choice but because of issues with school and finals)

-Garder/bouquet toss

-Money dance (again not by choice but because my DJ was the worst person on the entire earth)

-I had my bridesmaids (I also had men standing on my side) pick out their own dress in the color I wanted. I didn’t want my college friends dropping tons of money on a dress they would never wear again!

-We didn’t have assigned seating: for the ceremony and reception 

-Oh and I had pandora for my music (completely other story but it worked out well lol)

Post # 35
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

We haven’t worked out all of the details yet, but here’s what I’m pretty sure we’re skipping out on at this moment:
– Garter toss (please don’t go under my dress in front of your family!)
– Bouquet toss (I personally hate participating)
– A wedding cake (OMG. Doing different desserts instead) 
– Father toast (my dad HATES public speaking. His comments at the funeral for his parents were less than 20 seconds)
– Traditional vows/religious ceremony (we’re not religious and I’d rather say something that is actually coming from my heart. I do like the traditional vows, but I think what I have to say to him would be more meaningful)
– White dress (mine is a skirt and a top, and the skirt actually has blush undertones!)
– not seeing each other before the ceremony (practical reasons of photos, plus I think it’ll make me feel better and will help me avoid ugly crying… I hope :P)

Also, I guess we’re *technically* skipping the crazy bachelor/ette parties – neither of us are big partiers, so we’re having relaxing weekends with our attendants 🙂

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