- 8 years ago
So here is a very long post. Why? Well, while I am not getting married any time soon (as far as I know) I have come across a few unity ceremony readings and wanted to share them with the hive. Hope they help somebee…
UNITY CROSS –
At this time, _____ and _____ will assemble the Unity Cross, a beautiful sculpture they will display in their home to remind them of the covenant they are making today. This three part covenant that you are making today. (Bride first name), (Grooms first name) and our Lord Jesus Christ. Through this covenant, from this moment forward you will both be together on your journey through life and you will never be alone.<br /> <br />In Genesis chapter 1, we read that God created man in His own image. That means that He created man bold, strong, to be a leader, to be a protector of his wife and family.
(Holding the groom’s piece of the Unity Cross, the pastor says: )
The outer form of the Unity Cross represents the strength, leadership, and protection of the man. The book of Ephesians reminds husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church, totally and completely giving himself for her.
(At this time the pastor hands the piece to the groom and he places his cross onto the base.)
(Holding the bride’s piece of the cross, the pastor says: )<br /> As well, Genesis (Genesis 2:20-23) tells us that the woman was taken from man. The bride’s piece of the Unity Cross represents the beauty and the many capabilities of the woman, designed with intricate, beautiful detail and is placed inside the protection of the groom’s cross, completing the sculpture and representing the Two Becoming One.
(At this time, the pastor hands the bride her piece of the cross and she places it into the center of the man’s cross.)
To complete this sculpture, representing the couple’s covenant, we are placing three pegs to hold it together. These pegs represent the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, showing God’s place in this covenant and the security and completeness that only our Heavenly Father can give.
(At this time the three pegs will be placed into the Unity Cross, completing the sculpture.)
In Jeremiah 1 verse 5 He says that He knew you both before you born and Jeremiah 29 verse 11 He says that he has plans for your lives, Plans for you both to prosper, Plans that are amazing and unimaginable. More than that His word tells us that He created you for His purposes. May this cross be a reminder in your home of what God has destined for you.
UNITY CORD –
Today, [name of groom] and [name of bride] have chosen to braid three strands together into a single cord. Each strand has a significant meaning.
The gold strand represents God and His majesty.
The purple strand represents the groom and his life.
The white strand represents the bride and her life.
In braiding these three strands together, [name of groom] and [name of bride] have demonstrated that their marriage is more than a joining of two lives together.<br />It is a unity with God as well. They have chosen to allow God to be at the center of their marriage,woven into every aspect of it.
As Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 reads, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone. Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
UNITY CANDLE –
It is sometimes performed to symbolize the joining together of the two families, and their love for the bride and the groom, into one united family that loves the new husband and wife. More often it is to symbolize the union of two individuals, becoming one in commitment. The popular explanation is that the taper candles are lit by representatives from each family to symbolize the love and allegiance that each family has for either the bride or the groom. As the bride and groom use these two flames to light the unity candle, they bring the love of both families together in a united love of the new couple.
Generally, the two tapers are left burning and replaced in their holders (because each family’s love for their own will continue). However, in some ceremonies they may blow out their individual candles. When the ceremony is alternatively performed to symbolize simply the joining together of the bride and groom, the tapers may be blown out, to indicate that the two lives have been permanently merged, or they may leave them lit beside the central candle, symbolizing that the now-married partners have not lost their individuality.
“___________________ and ________________ the two candles lit by your loved ones symbolize your separate lives, your separate families and your separate sets of friends. I ask that you each take one candle and that together you light the center candle.
The individual candies represent your individual lives before today. Lighting the center candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one light, and represents the joining together of your two families and sets of friends to one.”
Matthew 19: 5-6 says, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be untied to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So, they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”