I have gotten LOADS of good deals thanks to dear friends:
Venue: 6,100 not discount BUT he did not charge me additional to upgrade to colored versus white tableclothes (so technically this was a 200 discount).
Cake: A friend of a friend does wedding cakes and since we were recommended to her from her friend she did our cake half price (Value: 600, Paid:300).
Photographer: Again, a friend of a friend has a brother who does photography on the side. Since he is not a complete professional (you could never tell from his pictures) he usually charges $1500 for a wedding, bridals and engagement shoot. He did us for $700.
DJ: Another person who does DJ on the side. He is a local sherriff in town and I had him in 5th grade as my dare officer. Since he remembered me, he is charging $300 instead of his usual $500.
Florist: The BEST florist in town happens to be a good family friend! All the arrangements she is doing for us FREE of charge for labor, we are just buying the flowers (she is even paying for some of them and vases). Normal cost is about $1200, we are paying her $400.
Ceremony Musician (Harp): $200.. no discount but I think great price.
Dress: $950 including alterations, this was a $100 discount on the dress.
Paper stuff: Used a coupon on shutterfly and paid $20 ($30 in savings) for STD’s. Had custom made invites from another Bee for only $175. Anything similar I saw was running around $300.
Officiant: $300, no discount.
Just from the big things total value is around 11,800. We are paying right above 9,300. We have also saved a ton of money on all the small stuff. I have bought things one by one at Michaels, JoAnns and Hobby lobbing using 40-60% off coupons or buying things as they were on sale. I also purchased 8 candy jars for my candy bar SUPER cheap from another bee. I have used coupons for department stores, bath and both and VS for my bridesmaids gifts (over $100 value each, I paid around $40) and I have used coupons for the candy for my candy bar. I have kept all the reciepts for the small stuff and so far I have spent about $700 on all the small stuff (everything from ribbon to cardstock to candy jars to Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts, to sand ceremony set, chinese take out boxes, labels, garter, stamp sets, cocktail napkins, over 20 various gold/coral/navy picture frame, candy, etc) but have saved well over $1,000.