(Closed) wedding values: what is MOST and LEAST important to you?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
6414 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Most important:

1. Alcohol/ refreshments

2. Music/ entertainment

3. Venue/ decor


Least important:

1. Bridal Party

2. Food

3. Invitations

Post # 18
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

1. Church

2. Photographer

3. Music

4. Dress

And it sounds weird but I wasn’t too worried about the venue for the reception. As long as it had four walls and a ceiling and wasn’t a run down P.O.S. I was fine, because once we had the food, music, and people, nobody cares what the place looks like!

I also wasn’t too worried about the stationary. As long as it had all the important information on it, that’s all I needed! They still turned out very pretty, though!


Post # 19
16 posts
  • Wedding: March 2012

1. Photography/Venue

2. Food

3. Attire

Our ceremony needed to be at a ski resort so we can have the skiing incorporated like we planned. All the big name places in Colorado, like Breck, Vail, Aspen, etc. were wall WAY too expensive. We wanted to find a place that was a ski resort feel, but very reasonable in price.

Also with photography, we both know that will be the only thing we will have to remember the day, the emotions, and everything else that happens. So it matches with the venue on importance.

Post # 20
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Most important to us:

1. Photography

2. Reception

3. Attire

Least important to us:

1. Invitations/STD’s

2. Flowers

3. Cake

Post # 21
3537 posts
Sugar bee


1- photographer

2- food/drink

3- venue



1- cake

2- invitations

3- flowers

Post # 22
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Most Important

1. Photographer

2. Decor

3. Bride and Groom clothing and grooming

(As you can see I care alot about appearance :-/, tryna work on that)

Least Important

1. Limo

2. Stationary

3. Alcohol (my Dad is a pastor and doesnt want any at all)

Post # 23
1472 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissTaken: Our priorities are very similar to yours! We wanted to throw a fun party for our guests, so the bulk of our budget went to food, alcohol, and live music. When I attend a wedding, I can rarely remember what the flowers or centerpieces look like, but I do remember if I had fun or not…I tried to keep that in mind when we put together our budget!

Post # 24
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

This is what I notice most when I go to weddings…It’s hard to be objective about my own.


1.  Vibe (venue, dress of everyone making a pretty scene where people feel like they’re out somewhere special, music, dancing, good crowd in a good space…so many little details that make it, but you know when there’s a good one.)

2.  Smashing bride and groom.

3.  Food/drink


1.  Rings

2.  Flowers

3.  Singing and sermons at ceremony.

Post # 25
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013


1. Music

2. Drink… and food but at this point so many people expect crappy wedding food anyway.

3. Photography



1. Transportation

2. Flowers

3. Stationary

Post # 26
5879 posts
Bee Keeper

Top: 1) Food/drink 2) Music 3) Photography

Food, my family will talk about it to death if the food is bad. Music cause I want a hot ass dance party. Photography is a musy since that going to be visual reminder forevah.

Least 1) Venue 2) Stationary/favors 3) Dress

Venue, we are pretty flexiable as far as the type of venue. As long as I can finda decent space at a good price point.  Stationary/favors – Gonna do cheap invites thru vistaprint, programs are can be eliminated if there isn’t enough time to do them. Dress is important but again I’ll be flexiable don’t want to break the bank.

Post # 27
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Expectations(My priorities):

1. Food (I love food and an event this significant MUST be accompanied by the most amazing food!)

2. Photograpy (Beacuse when I will want to remember/tell, pictures are better than memories alone.)

3. Theme coordination/details (Because I love playing with details/planning events)

Reality (What I think guests really care about):

1. Alcohol/food

2. Music/entertainment

3. Socializing/embarassing wedding traditions

I couldn’t care less:

Music, embarassing wedding traditions, cake

Post # 28
1392 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011


1. Photography/videography

2. Venue/Food

3. MC/Music  

We did really well in those aspects.  We had a lot of comments about how great the food was.. best meal at a wedding, the MC did an amazing job and the music had everyone dancing, no matter their age.   We have amazing video and photos to remember it all with.


1. Fancy getaway car

2. Stationary

3. Centerpieces

Post # 29
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Personally my top 5 are as follows (reception):

1.  Reasonably priced location (no more than $75 per person)
2.  Pics (our big splurge)
3.  Drinks (we’re thinking of sticking to beer, wine, and soda)
4.  DJ/Uplighting (most DJs in my area offers uplighting)
5.  Food (I don’t want anyone to suffer from food poisoning)

My bottom 5:
1.  Getaway car (we’re using FFIL’s red coupe)
2.  Reception flowers (I’m DIYing them with only Vendela roses)
3.  Stationary (I want to know how to DIY them but that will be tough to do)
4.  Cake (keeping it simple)
5.  Video (after the first dance, I don’t need it anymore) 

However my guests, especially the Out of Town ones from NYC and Long Island, will focus on this:

  • drinks
  • location because if it’s not in a country club, it’s considered tacky
  • really good music

Post # 30
1223 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013


food/alcohol package


Post # 31
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Top priority:

1. Having a short ceremony

2. Venue

3. Music


Lest priority:

1. photography

2. decorations

3. food/alcohol

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