Post # 1
Anyone else out there a wedding industry professional who is now planning their own wedding (also welcome advice from those who have planned in the past!)?? I’m a musician and I play mostly at weddings– ceremonies, cocktail hours, and most of all RECEPTIONS. I’ve even played some rehearsal dinners and a proposal or two!
I’ve probably helped between 150 and 200 brides at this point. I’ve seen every damn dress and tasted every cake and I’ve sung every song you can think of that might be related to weddings (and a few that totally surprised me and I will never sing again). So I always thought I would never have a wedding because I was over it. Now, I’ve got some pretty specific plans, but am having trouble trying to afford it all honestly.
Additionally, I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO DO FOR MUSIC. No idea. I didn’t want a shitty DJ but now I really don’t know who’s going to play actual music? I don’t want any of my friends working, so none of them will play (also the audience will be at least 50% musicians). But since most of the local music crowd will be guests, that doesn’t leave a lot of trusted musicians left to hire. Which is kind of a moot point because I wouldn’t want to hire a typical wedding band since myself, the groom, and half of the guests DON’T want to hear the same music they play almost every gig. I’m thinking of having some local indie bands play their usual (original) set during dinner and then tracking down a lead on a really good DJ who will play only old school soul, funk, r&b and disco? Would that be weird?
Also, did anyone find that other vendors gave them discounts from being a fellow industry person? Or nah?
Someone, please, tell me your story of planning your wedding after being a vendor for so long. What you were picky about, and how you resolved it?
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Post # 3
Your music idea sounds fab. Not sure what else you need advice on. Maybe I don’t understand because I’m not a wedding vendor but I imagine vendors plan their weddings the same as everyone else, except they might have a greater knowledge base to start from…?
Post # 4
I used to DJ. But clubs not weddings. I’m chipping in as music was so important to me for our day. Re the DJ, I did exactly what you did and asked a fellow DJ pal to DJ the later part of the night (he also sorted the music set up for the ceremony). He plays exactly what you outlined and it went down a storm. So thumbs up for that option you mention.
Post # 5
tomkitty : 🙋🏾🙋🏾🙋🏾
I’m a vendor. I think most people that work in this industry are either VERY particular or really laid back. Like you, I’ve seen it all. I’ve seen people pay A LOT for things that don’t even matter in long run. I feel like people are expecting me to have a fancy wedding because they’ve seen those that I work on, but I’m not interested. When you do so many, you see how quickly the day flies by and how people stress over details that often times go unnoticed. For my wedding, I focused on what’s important: convenient venue (WITH LOTS OF PARKING 😂), great food, great drinks, and great music. Most guests aren’t going to remember whether or not you had gold flatware or if you spent an arm and a leg on specialty China & linens….Guests remember how much FUN they had.
I’m keeping it relatively inexpensive and very relaxed. I just want to show up and have a good time. It was also my goal to have everything completely planned by the end of March because I literally will not have time to work on my own wedding after that. I already have 31 weddings for 2017 😱.
I think your idea for the music sounds great! Also, I did get discounts from vendors that I have a great relationship with.👍🏽