- 1 week ago
I am posting this to vent about what happened around my wedding and how there was a death in the family. Maybe I will find someone else with a similar situation, which I cannot find anyone who has yet.
I started dating my husband in 2008, got engaged in 2017, and got married in August 2019. We were young when we started dating in 2008, so we waited until we graduated, had careers, paid off student loans, etc. Well I went into grad school in 2015 (while working full time), but when he proposed in 2017 I was near the end of grad school.
I did not wedding plan until I graduated from grad school. This left me with only around 5 full months of wedding planning total. It was a stressful mess. I did not enjoy the process because it was rushed, people kept expecting invitations who I couldn’t afford to invite, pricing kept adding up, etc. I didn’t have help from anyone, either.
So I figured, I will plan everything so well that I will be able to relax and enjoy the wedding itself. I planned for 3 weeks off of work! I took off the week before the wedding and then 2 weeks for our honeymoon.
The first day I was off of work, I was excited. Finally, I could relax and enjoy all of my hard work. This was the moment I was waiting for. Finally, a decade of our relationship, we can finally get married and enjoy the time.
Unfortunately, this is the same day that chaos began. My husband’s mother was admitted to the hospital for septic shock. I couldn’t believe it. We all thought, “okay, she will be fine, she will get out of the hospital before the wedding.” My husband was in the hospital with his mom the entire week. He did not spend any time with me. My matron of honor was my husband’s sister, so she too was at the hospital the whole time. I went to the hospital to visit but had to handle last minute wedding things all alone.
The day before the wedding, his mom was not able to leave the hospital. She missed the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. The day of the wedding, she wasn’t allowed to leave the hospital again. So she missed the wedding.
The whole mood of the wedding was a downer. It was a small family wedding of just 75 people, so everyone was talking about my husband’s mom.
After the wedding, the hospital said his mom would be fine after surgery. So his mom told us to enjoy our honeymoon. A few days into our honeymoon, his mom passed away.
The month after the wedding was all about the funeral, closing her accounts, moving out her apartment, etc.
Now here I am surrounded by cousins, friends, etc who have their weddings coming up and I am very bitter about the topic and hurt every day that I cannot ever see my mother-in-law again. I was very close to her.
I feel like people get carried away in all of the stupid wedding details, when all that matters is who is there. My wedding was ruined, I lost someone close to me, and I am sad every day.