- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
A wedding day is a day most women dream of from the time they are little, except me. I didnt start looking at locations online until a few months before I actually got engaged. However, in a matter of months I knew exactly what I wanted and I had managed to fall completel head of heels in love with TWO locations.
A little info on my wedding taste (just because I may not like something for my own wedding doesn’t mean you cant do it)
What I love: Candles, roses, neutral colors, taupe, light tan, blush pinks, rose golds, antique gold, antique silver, vintage materials, broochs, real candlesticks, real pearls, luxury fabrics, real wooden chairs, table drink service so guests don’t have to go to the bar, gourmet food, romantic views, gardens, foliage and fields.
What I hate: satin chair covers or any chair covers for that matter, fake flowers, mirror centerpieces, cheap online favors, taffeta, shiny satin or silk (I like matte satin or washed silk), glass vase gems, curly ribbon, monogram everything.
For me the only thing I really cared about for the wedding was a beauitiful location, a location that was romantic, intimate and breathtaking. I wanted a location that would wow the guests so much, I hope that even for a minute they could get a gimplse of how much I love my fiance, and what I feel when I look at him. Sounds corny right? Well, it is. For me I would rather evoke emotions in our guests that spend all my time, effort and money in silly wedding decor that has our name an initial on everything. We want our wedding to be fun, simple yet very elegant, though my finance doesn’t care as much as the only detail he really cares about it getting to marry me.
The first location was Tower Hill Botanical Garden in Boylston, MA. This was where my finace proposed, a beautiful sunny saturday in Steptember: we brought a picnic lunch of fruit, cheese and crackers and sandiwches. After lunch we went to walk some of the trails around the grounds, and we stopped in a gazebo next to a little pond in the woods and got out this old blue box with a beautiful antique ring that belonged to his great grandmothers and he proposed to me in the most perfect setting. (http://www.towerhillbg.org/index.php/facilities-rental/weddings/) They have this gorgeous green house with HUGE glass windows and HUGE double doors that open up to a stone patio with all these plants, a large pond in the middle and these adorable turtle fountains. The perfect place for a late spring outdoor wedding. It was absolutely stunning and if you look up pictures of the place at night all lit up for a wedding it is like something out of a fairytale. Just Perfect. Only problem, this place was going to put us about $10,000 over budget. This place has LOTS of rules, and if you use a ceremony location and reception location on site you have to buy double the chair rentals, the facility rental is about $6,000-$7,000 alone. Not a problem but our max budget is $25,000 for a wedding and this palce would put us at about $34,000 so we crossed this off this list. Heart Break #1 of the wedding process.
Location #2 was quite different. This location was called the Waypoint and was attached to a fairfield inn and suits in New Bedford, MA, before you gag at the idea, hear me out. (http://eventsbylhc.com/venues/waypoint-event-center/waypoint-event-center-photo-gallery/) This building used to be an old whle oil refinery from the 1800’s and is across the street from the water and within walking distance are a lot of art galleries, nice restaurants and local shopping. It is a beautiful grey stone building with high ceilings and hardwood floors. A perfect, small and intimate venu (can only hold 130 guests). I really like this location because it was attached to the hotel and would be easy and safe for our guests at the end of the night. Naturally I don’t like hotel venus because they are your generic run of the mill banquet rooms but this was not one bit. Best part, it was luxury on a budget, we could add in extra luxury details since the price was so cheap (I am talking $9,000 for FULL open bar appetizers, entree, cake cutting, tables and chairs, rental fee) so we would have a lot left in our budget to do luxury favors, welcome baskets for the rooms etc. Well turns out our guest list got close to 200 people so this location wouldnt work. To be honest, I may have cried a little when I was told this wouldn’t work. I think I maybe have been hungry, a little cranky and a little overwhelmed with planning in generall, so I chalk it up to just a woman moment not a bridezilla moment.
After looking at other locations online and running numbers and trying to find something NEAR a Greek church that fit our specifications we were running out of options. When my fiance and I were driving around with my parents looking at locations and going to tastings…..my dad decided to pull into this country club that was between the hotel we wanted to book and the church we are getting married in. At first I was ready to tell him to turn around, afterall, I wan’t looking for your run of the mill location. A Country Club is absolutely a run of the mill location. I was starting to feel so heartbroken that I would not find the romantic location I was looking for. I will admit, I walked into this location already hating it without giving it a chance, so no matter what anyone said or did I was prepared with the “it’s not happening” attitude. Looking back I wish I had been more open to the idea when we were there. It took a while for the place to “grow” on me.
After my internal tanrum had subsided I realized all the amazing potential this palce had. We showed up on a Sunday afternoon for some drop-in information on weddings. The executive Chef welcomed us in, gave us a tour and had answers for every wedding queston we had. This in itself was impressive, as most locations we looked at even the wedding planners didnt have the answers or the knowledge that this man had and he wasnt even the planner. In my grumpiness I mentioned how I didn’t think the baby blue walls would work with what I wanted (since I was trying to find any excuse to not like the location) well he says “You buy the paint, we will change the color”, so clearly they were ready and willing to accomdate any request no matter how big or small. He gave us the info of the woman who handles functions and we ewre in touch with her within a few days, and within a couple weeks we had a tasting schedule. We did not expect to like the country club food, we thought it would be average banquet food. This was NOT banquet food and was incredible we know that our wedding guests if not blown away with the locaiton will be blown away with the food. We tried a chicken breast that was stuffed with buffalo motzarella, asparagus and proscuitto that was served with roasted fignerling potatos and green beans. We had a fillet mignon that was served with a garlic sauce, mashed potatos and asparagus and the third meal we tried was a roasted chicken with pan gravy and I forget the sides because the roasted chicken was amazing. All of the meats were juicy and falvorfull, the vegetables were cooked just right and were still crunchy. There is nothing I hate more than overcooked veggies, but they had it perfect here!
I am still a little sad that the reception is at the one thing I never wanted, a generic location but I think I can make it work. We’ve decided to do mostly candles of all varring sizes with a thick covering of rose petals around them to make it seem more romantic. I think adding traditional flowers arrangements will just make this place look even more average, so lots of candles it is. I couldnt seem to find photos on their website but I did find a video of the Country Club of weddings http://vimeo.com/9350412.
Well all is said and done I am going to be happy getting to marry my best friend regardless of where the reception is, I hope no one takes this as me being too concerned with the location over my love. The truth is I want a location as beautiful and breathtaking as my love for him and I will survive and be just as in love no matter where we get to celebrate.