Post # 1
I’m wondering if anyone has any words of advice for me…My wedding venue, the Goethe Institut in New York City, cancelled on me Twice–my wedding is only five weeks away. The first time they cancelled, I contacted them and they said there was a fire code warning but that they would make an exception for me. After I had the invites printed on the Gocco, all the hotels, caterer, florist, band booked, they just emailed me last night and cancelled again.
I know I can probably find another venue but I’m heartbroken…I spent every second of this past year planning the wedding at that location and now, everything has gone to hell and I just don’t feel like dealing with everything again…
What should I do? My fiance has people flying in from everywhere and I’ve spent so much money buying/diying decorations, etc. My ceremony was booked to be a couple of blocks away as well and I can’t get my deposit back for that.
Help weddingbee readers!
Post # 3
What reason did they use for cancelling this time (and over e-mail?Â How rude!), and do you have a contract to protect yourself?
Hope others can help you with venue ideas.
Post # 4
The first time, they sent me a weird letter citing some fire code cause. They didn’t even call me. The second time, they emailed me and said that they’re closing their doors…I do have a contract with them but I don’t know what it even means–it’s not just a deposit, it’s all the other costs and the time/effort I put into the wedding planning.
It’s so upsetting. Should I just postpone the wedding and wait until next year or something? I feel heart-broken.
Post # 5
I would definatly not cancel. Instead of having a long thought out, details wedding, go the opposite.
Find a park and have a carefree, laidback, few details kind of wedding. I’m the kind of bride that wishes I could have both types of weddings, so just change gears.
I can’t imagine how emotionally difficult this must be though. But really, do you need a venue to fall in love? Naaahhh, Take your time, mourne your loss, then get your family and friends to rally around you and make a new plan!
Post # 6
Thanks guys! What do you think I should do about trying to get my $ back from these people?
Post # 7
Seek legal counsel, seriously. Get your contract and all the letters/e-mails/whatever kind of communication you’ve had with the venue and get a lawyer. Or even just go to small claims court. You’re out money, they’re refusing to reimburse you or provide the service and you have a contract? Time to go to court.
Post # 8
Have you tried calling them just to be sure its not a cruel joke?? Or going there in person and finding someone to talk to you??
Post # 9
Absolutely seek legal counsel ASAP. They may be able to intimidate them enough to force them to allow you to have your wedidng there.
Also, as far as finding a venue if that does work out call call the Special Events & Permits Office of the NYC Department of Parks & Recreation at 212-408-0226. Central Park has some really amazing locations. Also, start walking the blocks around where your ceremony will take place and talking to restaurant owners, flower shops, anything that looks promising.
If there is anything I can do to help I am in the NYC area so send me a PM. This is really something awful and unfair and I can’t imagine how frustrated you must be feeling. I think if you share your situation with potential venues they may be willing to be flexible with you. It sounds like you put so much work and personality into your wedding planning and I am sure the elements you’ve created will look wonderful anywhere.
Post # 10
So sorry to hear that! Isn’t the Goethe Institut a non-profit? Worse case scenario: if you don’t have the party there and you can’t get a refund then you should be able to take it as a tax deduction. But I would try to get the $ back first. What about National Academy of Arts or The Kosciuszko Foundation? Both are near Goethe and were at a similar price point (or less) when we looked last year.
Post # 11
I just had another idea. Take a look at the 92nd Street Y. It’s a really cool venue. http://www.92y.org/content/facilities_rental.asp
Post # 12
vyeta7 – Good Idea!
BVBride- can you give us some details – date, #people, general price range, neighborhood etc so those of us that have looked in the new york area can help think of alternatives?
I have to say I am impressed by how calm you seem! I know this must be so awful, but hopefully there is a good solution around the corner!
Post # 13
I agree with Janna, we’d love to help, give us more details!! 🙂