Post # 1
Hi bees! I’ve finished wirting my personal vow and I’m not sure if I wanna read it to my Maid/Matron of Honor for comments or if I should just keep it to myself so the first person I’ll read it to would be my groom on our wedding day. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
Definitely keep it to yourself! My videographer wanted uncomprimised audio of my vows about an hour before the ceremony, so I ushered everyone out of the dressing room and obliged. Looking back though, I wish I had just asked her if we could hold off until AFTER the ceremony, and I’d be happy to do it then.
The reason I wish I had waited is because it was the first time I had read them aloud, and I got super emotional hearing them out loud and imagining I was saying them to my (then) fiance. When I was reading them to him during the ceremony, of course I got emotional still, but it was just different. My voice didn’t choke up or crack with raw, pure emotion like it had just an hour before, and I wish he had gotten to experience that first hand.
Rehearsed is NOT always better! Hope This Helps 🙂
Post # 4
@WineAndCupcakes: Totally agree! Definitely keep to yourself! 🙂
Post # 5
Thanks for the tip! I’ll then definitely keep it to myself!
Post # 6
@summerSmile: A lot of bees post them to the boards so that others can read over and give tips- be it content or grammatical.
If you we’re comfortable Im sure the bees would love to help you out and that way you aren’t actually reading them aloud to anyone before your groom if you are worried.
I think at the end of the day though we all start worrying about personal vows- do they sound too sappy or not emotional enough- If you have written them personally and honestly I really dont think you can go wrong if you believe what you are saying/committing.
Good luck x
Post # 8
at least read it out loud to yourself to make sure the wording sounds right and isn’t awkward or hard to pronounce or weirdly ordered.
Post # 9
We’re sending our vows (individually w/o the other seeing them) to our officiant. She’ll look at them just to make sure one isn’t like ten minutes long while the other is ten seconds, lol, and that one isn’t super serious and one super funny, just to make sure they’re on the same page, basically. But other than her, nobody will see or hear them until the day of.
Post # 10
I’ve actually been reading it aloud to myself just to make sure it sounds and feels right. A little more and i might already memorize my vows I’m still editting it a little but when it’s final I might take your advise and post it here for opinions. Thanks!!
Post # 11
I asked my daughter what she thought because she is honest and would tell me if I didnt sound good. My Fiance doesnt know what is in them but he is so noisey he wants to read them but I told him he will have to wait.
Post # 12
I let my moh read it but didnt raven practiwere ewe both wrote them around midnight the day before
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think we’re going to write ours together so that they’re the same, and we probably won’t share them with anyone else.
Post # 14
@lolot: I think we may go this way too. I want them to have a similar vibe and even play off each other a bit. And make sure they are roughly the same length and level of seriousness, etc. I don’t think we’ll actually read them aloud to each other beforehand though.