(Closed) Wedding Vow: Do you read it to someone or keep it to yourself until the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Would you practice your vow with someone?
    Practice and read to someone for comments and improvements : (8 votes)
    27 %
    I want my groom to be the first to hear it on our wedding day : (19 votes)
    63 %
    Groom and I will practice together before the wedding : (3 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    1941 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Definitely keep it to yourself! My videographer wanted uncomprimised audio of my vows about an hour before the ceremony, so I ushered everyone out of the dressing room and obliged. Looking back though, I wish I had just asked her if we could hold off until AFTER the ceremony, and I’d be happy to do it then.

    The reason I wish I had waited is because it was the first time I had read them aloud, and I got super emotional hearing them out loud and imagining I was saying them to my (then) fiance. When I was reading them to him during the ceremony, of course I got emotional still, but it was just different. My voice didn’t choke up or crack with raw, pure emotion like it had just an hour before, and I wish he had gotten to experience that first hand.

    Rehearsed is NOT always better! Hope This Helps 🙂

    Post # 4
    23597 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @WineAndCupcakes:  Totally agree! Definitely keep to yourself! 🙂

    Post # 6
    769 posts
    Busy bee

    @summerSmile:  A lot of bees post them to the boards so that others can read over and give tips- be it content or grammatical.

    If you we’re comfortable Im sure the bees would love to help you out and that way you aren’t actually reading them aloud to anyone before your groom if you are worried.

    I think at the end of the day though we all start worrying about personal vows- do they sound too sappy or not emotional enough- If you have written them personally and honestly I really dont think you can go wrong if you believe what you are saying/committing.

    Good luck x


    Post # 7
    733 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Post them here instead

    Post # 8
    993 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    at least read it out loud to yourself to make sure the wording sounds right and isn’t awkward or hard to pronounce or weirdly ordered.

    Post # 9
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    We’re sending our vows (individually w/o the other seeing them) to our officiant. She’ll look at them just to make sure one isn’t like ten minutes long while the other is ten seconds, lol, and that one isn’t super serious and one super funny, just to make sure they’re on the same page, basically. But other than her, nobody will see or hear them until the day of.

    Post # 11
    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I asked my daughter what she thought because she is honest and would tell me if I didnt sound good. My Fiance doesnt know what is in them but he is so noisey he wants to read them but I told him he will have to wait.

    Post # 12
    2488 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I let my moh read it but didnt raven practiwere ewe both wrote them around midnight the day before

    Post # 13
    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I think we’re going to write ours together so that they’re the same, and we probably won’t share them with anyone else.

    Post # 14
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @lolot:  I think we may go this way too. I want them to have a similar vibe and even play off each other a bit. And make sure they are roughly the same length and level of seriousness, etc. I don’t think we’ll actually read them aloud to each other beforehand though.

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