- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
I will try to keep this short: we are having the wedding/reception in my hometown in Kentucky that my parents are paying for, and a hometown reception in FH’s hometown/current town we live in that FIL’s are paying for a few months later.
The wedding/reception is going to be medium-sized (150), and have a “Southern-casual” feel to it. I am trying to keep the budget down, because while my parents are able to spend a bit on it, the recession is still hitting them in the pocketbooks and I don’t want to wipe out their retirement savings just for this.
The hometown reception is another story…I knew I was in trouble when Future Mother-In-Law asked if it would be ok to have 250-300 people there. It will be a cocktail reception at one of the best restaurants in the city, that FIL’s are renting out for the whole night. The food/liquor bill alone will cost the same as the entire budget for the wedding/reception. Now Future Mother-In-Law is talking about hiring one of the best event planner/florists in the city (who also travels around the world, she’s so good) and all sorts of other big plans.
I guess I’m posting this to vent a little, because I’ve always been worried that the hometown reception will “outshine” the wedding itself and make my parents feel bad that they couldn’t pay for a more elaborate event. The truth is that FH and I don’t want the wedding itself to be some huge party where we don’t know half the people there (including family members that FH has never met!).
FH is FIL’s only child, and they have the means, so I don’t begrudge them wanting to celebrate our wedding in a big way. I just don’t want it to get TOO crazy for my own sanity, as well as to not somehow insult my parents, who are putting a lot of their time/effort/money into the wedding. I also don’t want FIL’s to get down to Kentucky and think that the wedding is bad, or not “good enough,” when they’re throwing a huge reception.
So, any advice on how to keep the reigns on the hometown reception? Or how I can deal with this emotionally?
Thanks ladies! Sorry this is so long!
PS. I looove my future-in-laws so this is not venting about their personalities, etc.