(Closed) Wedding was totally ruined

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m sorry that things didn’t go as planned! But in the long run none of that will matter. You’ll still have your husband who you love and maybe one day you guys can look back on it all and laugh about the silly details that went wrong.

One of my favorite episodes of Sex & The City was Charlotte’s second wedding where everything went wrong and Carrie tells her the worse the wedding, the better the marriage!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Bad wedding equals great marriage.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

Well first of all congratulations to you and your new husband.

I’m sorry you are this upset about what should have been one of the best days of your life. What has the planner actually said other than the dinner time being off? Has she apologised?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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HisMrs2017 :  Honestly none of these things sound like that big of a deal.  What are you hoping to achieve by fixating on them?  Things like the unity candle and  bouquet toss all could’ve been dealt with at the time, why didn’t you say anything?

Did you have an awful day overall? 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

I honestly planned and coordinated my own wedding and it wasn’t that hard to go up to the dj to have him make announcements for dances, cake cutting, etc. 

I think your wedding planner is kind of ditzy, but you should have checked in on her the week before the wedding to make sure everything matched up. Or you could have designated a family member or close friend to make sure the day was running smoothly. Anyway, what is done is done. I scanned through this article on the 7 second rule last night. It said to think about an embarassing or bad event for only 7 seconds, and then don’t think about it again at all. It will do you no good fixating on it.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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HisMrs2017 :  You should have gone over timing with your wedding coordinator before the wedding and ensured that all the vendors were ready to go.

As far as the day of, with the bouquet toss, etc. couldn’t you have mentioned them quickly to your DJ? Or pulled aside your planner?

Regardless, there’s no point in fixating on it now. It’s over and in a few years you will probably look back and laugh. Try to look at the positives. Some people can’t afford to have weddings at all, and you were able to have one and it sounds like you were surrounded by family and friends. Be grateful. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

Why didn’t you speak up during the ceremony when the unity candle and rose ceremony were overlooked? Our officiant forgot to do our wine ceremony so I just said “wait, we need to do the wine!” when I realized he was about to skip over it lol.

But in any event, whta’s done is done and at the end of the day you are married! Weddings are so hyped these days that it’s easy to obsess over a few things that went wrong…but we shouldn’t. I am bummed about a few minor things too, like I wish my photos were more “artsy” and I get bummed when I see other beautiful artistic wedding photos. But then I remember that our wedding wasn’t an art show, it was a celebration of love and the photos show that. So try not to dwell on the negatives!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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HisMrs2017 :  You’re saying how upset you are at the missed memories, but why didn’t you speak to the coordinators at the time?  It’s no good bringing it up at the end, if they unity candle was so important why didn’t you remind everyone at the time so it could be rectified? 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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HisMrs2017 :  LOL, no, I’m not kidding. In the scheme of life it’s a wedding, there are people who are fighting cancer, dealing with the dealth of a loved one, etc. etc. etc. 

Yes – you spent a lot of money on one day and want it to go perfect but life is never perfect. These sound like pretty minor things. I am telling you to be grateful because it appears you’ve lost sight of the POINT of a wedding which is your husband and yourself getting married and having love for each other. 

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