(Closed) Wedding was totally ruined

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 46
3441 posts
Sugar bee

As a married person, I totally hear what you are saying. It sounds super frustrating. Also as a married person, I hate that you are upset just after your wedding instead of enjoying yourself with your new husband and opening gifts and all that. The post-wedding time is fun and special. Try not to let this ruing things. Also, keep in mind that most (I understand your family noticed) but most of your guests had no idea what was planned so they are completely unaware that things went wrong. Feel free to try to get reimbursed but maybe wait a couple months so you can enjoy this time first!

Post # 49
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

If the wedding planner admitted fault, I would be asking for a partial refund!

Post # 51
8024 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would be beyond pissed at this wedding planner, sounds so unprofessional! I agree with trying to get a partial refund.

Idk why you’d assume a MUA would arrive an hour before she said she would though. That’s a bit weird.

Other than that, you’re still married, hopefully your pics are gorgeous, and [if youre having one] your Honeymoon is amazing!

Post # 52
2696 posts
Sugar bee

If you paid $2000 for a five-tier cake and got a three-tier cake, you would have every right to be hopping ass mad and demanding money back. You paid this chick $2000 and she did not deliver as expected. Yes, it’s a service and not a product and that can be difficult to measure but some of her errors are glaring and unacceptable. I’m not sure I agree AT ALL with the get over it advice. Yes, you are married and I’m sure tickled to be so. And yes, there have been worse wedding disasters on the Bee and elsewhere in the world. But dammit, someone owes you some coins. That’s bullshit. 

Post # 53
105 posts
Blushing bee

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leilarobs2 :  Totally agree. If this was $2k additional for wedding planning services, this chick owes you a partial refund. like other PPs said, once you calm down and aren’t so emotional, write down everything that went wrong. Include your fiance in on this so he can help you remember events correctly. THEN pull our your contract with this planner and make notes about what she detailed in the contract – specifically timing of events, vendor coordination, set up times. After that, I’d hope you have emails or text messages that can verify you were in constant contact about events and details. Put this together in a professional format and send it to her. Demand a partial refund! For the cake, did you take pictures of it before you cut into it? Is there a contract about who signed off on the cake’s condition or refunds/returns on the cake? For DJ, I’d just blast him on all sorts of wedding review websites. As for MUA artist being late, again, I feel like this is either miscommunication or coordinator slip up — if you told her a certain time, she was going to arrive then, not an hour early. Not sure what you can do about that. Good luck, some stuff you have to accept as “uh oh we messed up” and then others you should go after ex) wedding planner not fulfilling timeline and cake arriving damaged. 

Post # 54
1761 posts
Buzzing bee

I’d complain and demand a discount from the wedding planner. No tip.

Post # 55
7638 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

What?? You asked about the missing things in the ceremony at the time, and the wedding planner said “it’s too late”? She sounds like a bossy b*tch, more interested in her vision of your wedding than yours.

I suggest you write her a letter explaining all the things she did wrong, and request a full or partial refund. If she does not agree, that’s when you write her a bad review.

I’m sorry things went wrong, but in the end, you are married.

Post # 56
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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HisMrs2017 :  Congratulations on your wedding and marriage! Your wedding was not ruined. Some things went wrong, but hopefully one day you can think about the good things. Did you marry the person you love? Were the important people in your life there? It is what it is. Honestly it sounds like some of these thigs are being blown out of proportion. Your whole family as well as your friends were ‘hurting’ and complaining about your wedding day? Wow. Things aren’t perfect. You are totally entitled to feel upset and disappointed in this situation…But it also sounds like you are really choosing to fixate on went wrong. I know it is very fresh right now but try to take a deep breath and concentrate on the good things and gain some perspective.

Post # 57
9677 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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HisMrs2017 :  

No,  no,  NOT totally ‘ruined ‘ – totally ruined would have been

 –  the first  Mrs  Rochester showing  up 

– explosive diarrhoea –  either him or you  , whilst exchanging vows

– earthquake  and/or volcanic eruption

– vicar/pastor/officiant dropping dead (happened to a friend of mine, priest found dead in his study just pre ceremony. Slightly better than happening actually at the altar I guess . Well for them anyway ) 

– one or other of you going  to the wrong venue and standing there waiting  

What happened to you was really really annoying and disappointing , and  you have every right  to be cross and upset, but I think you will l be getting  over it now and even maybe laughing a bit . And getting your money back from that damn DoC! 

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