Post # 1
I’m new to this website but thought I’d check in to see if you guys had any helpful advice.
My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year now and we just got engaged over the weekend! We are so excited 🙂 He planned a surprise trip to a beautiful island destination in the Caribbean and it was such a beautiful proposal. I can’t stop staring at the ring! He and I have been in wedding planning mode a little over the past couple months, he started creating his family’s guest list a few weeks ago and we even went and saw a venue last month. We are thinking about getting married in May/June 2019 so we have some time to figure it all out. I’m not sure where to begin with planning, but I’m open to suggestions on that as well!
My concern, however, is this: we met on tinder! I am part of a conservative culture and I’m not sure how well this will be received and I also just dont want all the judgement from family and friends. Most of my close friends already know how we met, but I don’t necessarily want to put it on our wedding website under the “how we met” section, and I don’t know how to get around that. I thought about either just skipping that section or saying where we went on our first date (a sushi restaurant). I’m a private person and would have preferred a small wedding but he has a HUGE family, so we are probably going to have 300+ wedding guests. I dont necessarily want all of them to know how we met. Maybe I’m overthinking this, but is there a way I can put together the wedding website or answer people’s questions without saying we met on tinder?
Post # 2
Honestly, letting fear of how others will view or judge something about yourself that you KNOW to be entirely healthy and positive is a one-way trip to Shame Town.
If you give into it a little, you wind up giving into it a lot.
This is how you guys met. And do you want to ever feel ashamed to tell anyone anything about your relationship?
I would honestly feel incredibly offended if my Fiance (who is from a conservative family) felt the need to hide that we met via Tinder – I’d feel like part of our relationship was some sort of dirty secret in his mind.
Post # 3
Well, what do you say now if someone asks how you met?
And I think you are greatly overestimating how many people
A) care about how you met, let alone enough to judge it, and
B) care about your wedding website, let alone enough to go to it and actually read it.
This is such a non-issue. But if you don’t want to say, then don’t say. It isn’t like people are going to call you out in the middle of your ceremony and ask why you didn’t include a section about how you met. Such a small portion of your guest list is even going to go to your website anyway.
Post # 4
I just filled out the How We Met section too and I was completely honest. My fiancé and I met 6 years ago through Instagram…. through hashtagging!! When we first started dating, and people would ask how we met, we always beat around the bush because deep down we did feel a little ashamed. Who meets through instagram?! I feel like that’s even less common than people meeting through Tinder! But now, I don’t even care what people think, maybe because it’s more acceptable now, or maybe because it honestly really doesn’t even matter how we met. What matters is that it worked, we’re together and we’re moving forward. Just be honest, and who cares what people think anyway!
Post # 5
My FH and I met years ago at a ren faire, and then started dating after finding eachother online a few years later. For all intents and purposes, we met at a renaissance faire
That being said, we didn’t even include a “how we met” section. I thought that it was a bit odd, and honestly, nobodies business.
Post # 6
We met at a gas station where he was my shift lead lol.
I don’t think meeting on Tinder is weird at all 🙂
Post # 7
Go with what you’re comfortable with! If I were in the same situation with a more conservative family, I certainly wouldn’t be ashamed but would maybe prefer using verbiage like “we met online” or keeping it simple like that. Then, if they ask you about more of the details in person, you can reveal as much as you’d like. Just a suggestion! (Or as others have proposed, you can skip the section entirely if you don’t want it on your site!)
Post # 8
Tell your story! What does it matter if someone judges you for it. You found the right person. Most “How we met” stories are about being in the right place at the right time. For you that place was a dating app! I personally think its awesome.
Post # 9
Maybe just say we found each other online and then go into describing your first date, don’t make a big deal out of how you met online, you also don’t have to say Tinder.
Darling Husband and I met online and I don’t have a problem telling people, but depending on the audience sometimes Darling Husband will say we met at a trivia night, which is where we met for the first time in person.
Post # 10
I deleted the How we met section on our website, I am a huge romantic but I have never seen one that wasn’t horribly cheesy. If you really want to put one I would just be honest, most of my close friends have found serious SO’s on tinder so it doesn’t phase me at all.
Post # 11
You don’t have to post anything! I’ve seen couples make a page about the proposal, or just pics of themselves through the years with a little blurb about what brought them together (we love cooking and biking, now we have a puppy blah blah). Both are sweet to read 🙂
Post # 12
My Fiance and I also met on Tinder. When anyone asks how we met, I usually say, “We met via online dating… Tinder success story right here!” We were both on a variety of other online dating platforms, but we didn’t actually ever see each other through them.
We have a cute story about how my Fiance wasn’t interested in dating anyone who lived outside a 10 mile radius, since traffic is so bad here, but he was at a friend’s house that night which put us juuuuust within 10 miles of each other. He happened to be bored and went on Tinder while his friend was in the other room, he saw me and “super-liked” me, I should have been studying for a test but I was on Tinder too and liked him back. We texted all week, discovered we had a ton in common, went on a date that weekend that lasted 4 hours until the restaurant closed down around us, and the rest is history 🙂 I think mine is a perfectly adorable modern love story, and I have no qualms about sharing! You shouldn’t either — you both found love and forever on Tinder, it’s not like you’re telling your conservative extended family members about how you’re using Tinder for one night stands and hookups.
Post # 13
I met my fiancé through eHarmony. I adore that website and always reccomend it to people wanting a real connection.
When people ask me about how we met I keep it short and simple. I tell them that we met through eHarmony and after messaging for one day he asked for my phone number and invited me on a date over the phone. We went to lunch where I was too nervous to eat, and then saw a movie where he was too nervous to hold my hand. At the end of the date he asked if it was ok if he kissed me goodbye, I said yes, and the rest is history. People usually don’t want more details than that anyways.
So yeah, I’d just say that you met online and then describe your first date like someone else suggested because that’s basically what I do. And there’s no shame in it! 🙂
Post # 14
I’d just skip that section to be honest. Not that there’s anything wrong with meeting on Tinder- I know a couple of people who have found their spouses on there and defied the stereotype! I just didn’t see the point of that section on our website. I don’t think anyone will notice or care if you skip it.
Post # 15
I wouldn’t feel weird about it! Tinder is an online dating app, and can be used just the same as match.com or others. I know there’s an underlying stereotype, but honestly, it’s just a dating app geared towards the younger generation. If you are uncomfortable mentioning it, you can just say you met online and then go into detail about the rest of your relationship!