Post # 1
Since Fiance and I have been living together for 8 years and have established a home, we dedicided to not have a registry. Plus our wedding is also a destination wedding and really don’t want our guests to go through the hassle of lugging around gifts while traveling. I wasn’t going to put anything about gifts on our website, but now I decide that I want to say something like them being there is enough, no need to bring gifts blah blah.
I’m just really bad at wording things, and I don’t want to sound too corny. Can anyone help? Thanks!
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
Normally I would say just leave it off, but then people are going to assume you want cash, and either give you money or just pick out something themselves and give it to you anyway. Unfortunately people seem to give gifts whether we want them or not. If you want them to not give you anything, what about something like: We are so greatful for the gift of your time and effort in traveling to XX to celebrate with us, and consider this present enough. Since people are probably going to get you stuff anyway, you might want to throw something together (honeymoon registry if you’re at a resort?) just to give them some guidance. Otherwise you’ll end up with 98 mismatched vases sitting in the bottom of your closet when you get home.
Also people don’t usually bring boxed gifts to the wedding, they’ll either bring a card or have gifts shipped directly to your home. So lugging is probably not an issue, but not needing or wanting stuff is definitely legitimate.
Post # 4
The bride and groom are honored you are able to share their special day with them. Gifts are not necessary as your presence is present enough.
Post # 5
From an etiquette perspective, although it is perfectly acceptable to have links from a registry on a wedding website (in case guests proactively would like to seek out this information by taking the time to visit your website and click on the link), it still is not really considered to be polite to mention gifts (even the absence of them) directly.
Instead of making note of this on your website, you could perhaps gently help to guide guests in the right direction without actually saying anything directly about the issue of gifts. A line such as, “A reminder to those who do not fly frequently: Most airlines now have strict requirements regarding size and number of carry on and checked baggage. We encourage you to pack lightly, but you may want to bring along a bathing suit to enjoy the resort’s beautiful beaches.”
It’s also completely acceptable for you and your Fiance, as well as your parents and other very close family and friends who know of your concerns, to pass along this is information to any guests who may proactively inquire about your wishes regarding gifts.
Post # 6
I would just leave the info off the wedsite.
Post # 7
@MadTownGirl: CUTE. I think I would use this, or simply leave it off.
Post # 8
We had the exact same dilemma! Ultimately we decided not to mention anything on the website, and to spread the information by word-of-mouth that their presence is more than enough gift 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre
@petitcupcake: I always assume that if it’s a destination wedding that I’m not going to be getting them a gift. I would just leave it off, and if someone decides to be extra generous and give you a gift, then that’s especially thoughtful.