Post # 17
I don’t think they are necessary. I just did something easy peasy for my aunts and brothers who traveled 3,000 miles for my daughter’s wedding. I think I bought some oranges, a cookie, maybe a bottle of water, and a granola bar or something. I knew they would be prretty dependent on us for transportation, so I thought it would be nice to have a little something if they needed a snack, but didn’t want to ask. I actually went to dollartree and bought pretty gift bags. 🙂
Post # 18
I’ve seen everything from a couple homemade cookies and bottles of water to wine and gourmet snacks, and I really appreciate the gesture. I’ve been fortunate that my mom has taken over a lot of the details of wedding planning, which has allowed me to focus on fun projects, so I went a little nuts with the Out of Town bags. I can because I only have to do 15 of them.
Overall, we wanted our wedding to be about appreciating our family and friends and being grateful for the love and support. I’m a big believer in thank you notes and our oot bags were our “thank you” for traveling to our wedding. We’ve dedicated a large portion of the budget to aspects of the wedding that will make it fun for our guests. For us, it was a worthwhile investment to spend a little extra money to show our gratitude to the people who have been there for us.
In the end, folks may not remember every detail of the welcome bag, or the wedding itself for that matter, but I hope they leave knowing how much they mean to us.
Post # 19
We did welcome bags for our destination wedding and everyone was really appreciative. It was our way of saying thank you to our guests for traveling many hours to be at our wedding (and we did not do separate favors).
They also ended up being really useful in a few ways. First, we had several guests that flew in from other islands late at night and there wasn’t really anything open at the resort. They ate most of the snacks we provided in the bags that night, and most people were glad to get snacks and not pay resort price. Second, we included band aids. Unfortunately several people got injured over the course of the wedding weekend (scrapes on rock ledges, stepping on sea urchins, etc.) and they were REALLY useful, as was the tylenol. We included the information about bus pick-up times and event transportation in the bags since that wasn’t finalized prior to invitations and (as expected) no one printed the info before getting on the plane. The bags we got were relatively inexpensive and plenty of people also took them to the beach/pool.
I don’t think they’re absolutely necessary but they were really helpful at our destination wedding. I wouldn’t call them a waste but it probably depends on the type of wedding you’re having.
Post # 20
I think they are really nice, but definitely not a must-have. It’s a corner we gladly cut.
Post # 21
I’ve been to 2 weddings that have done welcome bags. One gave out bags that were really cute & useful, especially since we were away for a full weekend. Another was nice, but for us a little less necessary. We’ve contemplated doing one since we have guests coming from 12 different states, but have decided that our wedding is enough. So, just do what you want to do!
Post # 22
> I wouldn’t call them a waste but it probably depends on the type of wedding you’re having.
Post # 23
They are not necessary – they are a delighter. People will take advantage if they are there but no one will think you messed up if you choose not to do them. I agree that providing event information and a welcome card would be nice.
Post # 24
@Miss Starry Night:
Where did you order the totes for that price?
Post # 25
I have always really liked them at the weddings I’ve been to that have had them. And, if I’m being honest, once I realized they were a “thing,” I did kind of miss them at the weddings that didn’t have them. Not that I dwelled on it, or didn’t enjoy the wedding because of it, but there was just the tiniest tinge of disappointment when there wasn’t one. After spending however many hundreds of dollars traveling to and staying over at a wedding, it’s just REALLY nice when the couple makes a nice gesture to let you know they appreciate you coming. It doesn’t have to be anything too fancy, or too expensive. We’re doing them and right now the cost is hovering a little under $4/bag for ~50 bags. It’ll probably creep up as I add more stuff, but showing my appreciation for everyone coming to the wedding is important to me. I guess it’s just about what your priorities are, what kind of wedding you’re having, and what you have enjoyed about other weddings you’ve been to.
Post # 26
I like the idea of providing these, but I don’t want to pay the hotel extra for delivering them.
Post # 27
@brwneyedgrl – Most of the hotels we left the bags with didn’t charge us. We got the bags there before the guests checked in and they just held them at the front desk. For the one hotel that refused to hold it and said we had to pay for delivery, we just hand delivered them to people when we saw them since we were visiting people in the days leading up to the wedding. Maybe if they don’t do room delivery, they won’t charge?
Post # 28
We didn’t do Out of Town bags. We had a guest count of 83 and it would’ve been too pricey to do something like that. I feel like with Out of Town bags, it’s either go big or go home. No one really wants a bag filled with cheesey/cheap things in my opinion. It’s a nice plus if you have the budget for it, but we took the money we would’ve spent on it by chartering a private catamaran for a sunset sail that had snacks and an open bar, which I think the guest appreciated more. Also, I think we are all grown adults now and can pack our own sunscreen, etc. It definitely was not missed.
Post # 29
What are you putting in your bags? You must be an excellent shopper!
Post # 30
brunch vs. stuff brunch vs. stuff brunch vs. stuff I’d take brunch any day!
Post # 31
If I had to choose between a Out of Town and a brunch, I would go with the brunch. We are doing OOTs but we have quite a few coming in from out of town that haven’t been to Omaha in awhile or have never been here. There is also alot of big events in town that week so we are making maps that will have the best traffic routes around town.
You might consider giving Out of Town guest an envelope with a map, schedule, and contact information. A few months ago we were at a wedding where the grooms family was late because they got lost. The bride and groom had their phones off so they had no way to get ahold of anyone.