(Closed) Wedding without dancing: opinions?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you consider this rude?
    It sounds great to me! : (34 votes)
    24 %
    I'd be fine with it. : (48 votes)
    34 %
    I'd think it was a little strange, but wouldn't comment. : (20 votes)
    14 %
    I'd think it was strange, I may comment. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    It doesn't sound like fun to me. : (31 votes)
    22 %
    I'd RSVP no to a wedding like that! : (5 votes)
    4 %
    Other (In post) : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I LOVE polls! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 32
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @ZebraPrintMe:  my brother’s wedding reception was just a dinner, no drinking or dancing due to religious reasons, it didn’t stop anyone from going.  Anyone close to you will be there pretty much regardless of what you do or don’t do, they just want to share the special day with you.

    Post # 33
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    297 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I honestly HATE dancing. I think people just look dumb when they dance. I have never danced at a wedding and have always still had a perfectly good time. I would much rather mingle with other guests than make a fool of myself on the dance floor. I really wish I could have a wedding with no dancing…but Fiance loves to dance and told me we would have the most boring wedding ever if we didn’t have dancing. So I gave in and hired a DJ. However, I will ONLY be doing a first dance to appease Fiance and THAT’S IT!

    Post # 34
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    4655 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Eh. As long as I wasn’t expected to hang around for ages doing nothing, that’s fine. Cut the cake early and let everyone go home. It won’t be a big memorable social event of the season, but that sort of thing is overrated anyway.

    Post # 35
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    596 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    i answered “i’d be fine with it” which is true- i wouldn’t have anything negative to say but i would miss the dancing.

    i would not leave early either though – i’m coming to the wedding to support you and celebrate.

    Post # 36
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    7642 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @ZebraPrintMe:  If you serve a meal, it is still a reception.

    I voted “great” because I don’t care much for dancing and it sounds like a lovely intimate evening. In fact where I’m from it’s very common. The speeches are typically before or during dessert, and tie the evening together nicely.

    It boggles my mind that 4 people would RSVP “no” just because there’s no dancing.

    Post # 37
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    2055 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @ZebraPrintMe:  I’ve been to one wedding like that. It ended early enough (by 6pm) that it was not really a big deal (and I LOVE dancing). It was still a very beautiful and festive affair.

    I go to weddings to celebrate with my family and friends. To me, the lack of dancing is a not a good enough reason to decline an invitation.

    Post # 38
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    11468 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @paula1248:  +1. 

    @ZebraPrintMe:  What you’ve described absolutely is still a wedding reception, and it sounds lovely!

    Post # 39
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    746 posts
    Busy bee

    @vmec:  +1.  

    Of course I’d go to support your new marriage, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to sit around for 3-4+ hours with nothing to do for the rest of the night.  IMO, receptions=some type of music/DJ/band/iPod list and dancing.  I look forward to it!  In fact…over the past 10 years of weddings I’ve been to (over 10 that I can think of), every single one has had music and dancing and alcohol and the like.  Maybe that’s just my social circle.

    There’s totally nothing wrong with your choice, but know your guests – if they’re older and they don’t care about getting up and moving, then no problem…but if some people leave kind of early, don’t be surprised, either.  Whatever you do, make it YOUR day, and hopefully your guests will appreciate what you HAVE done to entertain them, and everyone will have a good time.  🙂  

    Post # 40
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    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Muckenthaler Cultural Center

    As long as there was background music on during dinner (think Sinatra etc.) and such I think it would be fine.

    Post # 41
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    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Our wedding is going to have no dancing; my Fiance hates it and I don’t really care to dance in an expensive dress.  We don’t actually expect anyone to want to get roaring drunk and have a party, though.  In fact, we’re taking steps to actively discourage this.

    First, it’s on a Sunday afternoon.  I hope people aren’t looking to get wasted on a Sunday afternoon.  The reception is very short – think 2 hours tops.

    We also had a very small guest list.  And the location is at a winery/restaurant known to have amazing food…so hopefully the food will be the focus.

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