(Closed) Wedding without gift registry??

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have been mulling over as to whether or not to have a registry. We may have one just to avoid getting lots of unnecessary gifts from people as people tend to want to give gifts whether you want them too or not.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@CinnamonHeart: We’ve been debating this, and I think we’re only going to register in one place for a very few items that we need/want. And then we’re going to specify that gift cards from Lowes and Home Depot would be greatly appreciated since we want to do so much remodeling to our house.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was not having a registry, but in the end I register for a dozen items at pottery barn because his family was upset that we didn’t have one.  They just started to include me, and I didn’t want to rock that boat.  They are the only ones who will know about it as in my professional and family circle registries outside of china just are not done.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

We aren’t having any type of registry. We are having a very small wedding and most of our guests will be traveling to get here, so we consider that gift enough. When asked about a registry, we are just being honest with them. If they choose to give us an additional gift that will be up to them, but totally unnecessary.

Post # 7
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Newbee

I was deciding between having a wedding registry and not having one. My sister told me to try Myregistry.com and I immediately decided that I wanted a registry. This registry did not limit me to only one store and allowed me to choose any item that I wanted. I was also able to find the cheapest prices for the items since I was browsing hundreds of stores.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We didn’t register anywhere. It’s a very small family wedding, and several family members were contributing financially to the wedding itself, so there was no need to register. We are having a party at home this summer, but since it is so long after our actual wedding, we aren’t going to register for that either.

Neither of us felt right about registering, so that was the primary factor. However, it was also a practical decision–we live in a small condo, and have no room for extra items. Someone suggested saving them until we buy a house, but we have no storage space–no storage unit, no basement, no attic, and our closets are already full!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We’re having a pretty small registry because I currently live overseas and plan to move back to the states in the next two or three years.  So we don’t want accumulate too many things over here since we don’t know where we’ll be in the next few years.

 My friend told me about wedding registries at Amazon, which has a universal registry button that allows you to register for things from other sites.  Amazon alone is awesome, but from any other website on the internet?  That was too awesome to pass up.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

On the Q&A of our website it says something to this effect:

Q:  Where are you registered?

A:  We’re not!  We know already asking a lot of you to travel to our [destination] wedding.  Your attendance is all the gift that we want.

The real reason is beyond that answer though.

We’re older (37/41) and financially secure with a very small city house and no garage or store room.  I don’t need any housewares and don’t want to have to give away the things that I have that I like to make room for new stuff.  My family overdoes the gift giving already for holidays, and the amount of brand new stuff that I donate to Goodwill always makes me feel so bad.  We didn’t want our wedding to be about excessive consumption and waste.

The downside is that some people feel pretty weird about it, and I’m concerned that people think that our request for no presents is code for “give us money”…which it is not.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@Melini: I would think that it was too.  I never attend a wedding without bringing a gift.  That being said, my gift at a wedding is 99% always cash (we bring gifts to the shower).  Is it the same in your social circle.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@heather25:  We don’t have a singe circle.  Our families are so different, and everyone is from geographically different places and flying to our wedding.  

I think that since our guest list is pretty small and everyone knows us well, after their first reaction, they know that we really are people who try to live very minimally and not accumulate things that we don’t need.  (My Fiance lived in his truck for 3 years even though he had plenty of money.  It’s not secret that we’re the family eccentrics.)  That said, I think that a lot of people are going to give us cash anyway.

I just thought of two more reasons why we didn’t want to register…

1.  We didn’t have a good way to haul a truckload of presents home from our destination.  It’s an 11 hour drive in our already full car.

2.  Having people ship a ton stuff to our house in the hoody-hood would make me feel a bit targetted.  It’s OK if I’m there (which I never am) and sign for stuff, but a lot of times it just gets left on the porch….not smart around here.

 

Post # 13
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Wannabee

We did not have a registry, as my husband and I had lived together for quite some time before the wedding, and really didn’t need (or have room for) any housewares or other traditional wedding gifts. Plus, if people chose to give us a gift, we preferred it to be something they picked out on their own, and not from a checklist of items. We mostly received money, in addition to some glasses, frames, and a camera.

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