(Closed) Wedding without my Brother-in-law?

posted 6 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@AnnaBride28:  how does your Fiance feel about his brother not being at your wedding? 

I understand what you mean about having one real wedding, but I think in certain circumstances it’s ok to have a legal wedding and then a celebration. 

Personally, I would probably have the civil ceremony without the brother but still have the big wedding with him present. I can’t imagine getting married without my close family present. 

Post # 5
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443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@AnnaBride28:  I totally understand your feelings, but I think if you really wanted a big, fancy wedding with all the trimmings you could make it work if you really wanted to. I just attended a wedding this past weekend where the couple had a legal wedding also for immigration purposes almost 2 years ago. They wanted the whole shebang and to be able to celebrate with everyone in the same room, so they made it happen… 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I understand how you’re feeling – I know that if I had a civil ceremony, I wouldn’t have a “real” wedding at all, because there just wouldn’t be that sense of urgency, as well as I would feel almost like I’m after gifts or attention. “We’re already married, but come watch us dress up and give us gifts anyway!”

Honestly, this is for your fiance to decide more than anyone. I’m sure you can live with your Future Brother-In-Law not being at the wedding, but you don’t want to push him towards a different choice if he genuinely wants his brother there for the “wedding.”

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