(Closed) Wedding woes with a baby on the way

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We did almost the exact same thing and it was amazing! I think the best way is to just be firm. Just a short statement you repeat every time they pester you about it. Eventually they will realize its not their decision and you are doing what’s best for your family. 

We have zero regrets and had such a fun time just the two of us getting married and then again at a casual party in our barn! 

Post # 3
832 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If you don’t have the energy to plan a small wedding right now then don’t! The big reception in the fall sounds awesome! Congrats on your pregnancy! Don’t do anything you don’t feel up to doing. Just explain that you have a lot of planning to do with the baby.

Post # 4
47445 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There’s always a compromise. Are the people in the family who want a small ceremony close to you? Parents? Siblings?  How many people are you allowed to have at the courthouse? I know my Mom amd grandmother would have been very sad not to be at my wedding.

Did I misunderstand what you said about planning your own baby shower? These are hosted by someone else. You would be the guest of honor not the planner/host.

Post # 6
2176 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

what about just doing a family dinner? doesn’t have to be something big – just immediate families (so ppl at the courthouse and your siblings)? or just cake and a champagne toast at your IL house afterwards?

If you want to just do something with the 2 of you (or nothing at all) then its ok too … I just get family being excited and wanting to be part of it

Post # 7
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


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littlemisshostess:  Just what I was going to suggest!


It seems like maybe they just want to help celebrate with you. I know several people who had a courthouse wedding with their immediate families in attendance, and then went to a low-key dinner or back to someone’s house for dessert. It gives them a chance to be part of and celebrate your wedding, and it doesn’t have to be anything fancy. I think this option would help appease them.

Also, if you’re inviting YOUR grandmother to the ceremony, you should invite his as well, especially as it sounds like she wants to be there. The aunt is your call (but I’d personally invite her to avoid drama).

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