- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
What do you guys think of this article? A friend of mine posted it on her facebook today. In sort of a ‘rah rah feminism, women should take up hobbies and spend time with their friends instead of planning their weddings prematurely!’ tone. I dunno, I was a waiting bee before I was proposed to, and I didn’t see anything wrong with it! For me it was more about connecting with other women who were in that phase of life, rather than actually planning my wedding ahead of schedule per se. But I don’t see anything wrong with that either, especially if it’s a private, ‘these are my hopes and dreams’, kind of thing.
A little bit of a tangent from this, as the article really is about ‘planning’ the wedding, but it is starting to really get under my skin to hear these ‘pro-woman’ diatribes about how unfeminst it is to be single and wish you were married, or do take active steps to try to find a husband or make yourself into a person who would be a good future wife. Especially when these opinions are coming from early 20-somethings who are fresh out of undergrad and fiercely independent. There is nothing wrong with that stage of life and with wanting to emphasize that you can be a complete and happy woman without a partner. But it’s also important not to shame women who place high value on finding a life partner and want to take steps to make that happen sooner rather than later. Especially for women who want to have children and the clock is ticking! I think a lot of young women mean well in their attempts to downgrade the importance of marriage/partnership in happiness, but they really exclude a huge proportion of the female population who are equally deserving of respect.