Post # 1
Does anyone else find the waiting board on weddingbee sad/depressing sometimes? I find myself thinking (or occasionally screaming at the monitor) some not so nice things when I’m have a bad waiting day. Hey, I got to get the crazy out somehow, right? LOL
Post # 3
I love the waiting boards because everyone is so supportive and thoughtful over here.
Post # 4
i feel ya…but its only on days that the first thing i see is like 50 brand new proposal stories….but i agree with discodance…that for the most part alot of the bees here are super supportive!! ive had a few very rude ones…but eh such is life….hope your waiting day gets better…mine is already in the crapper gotta love sudden doctor appointments! not!
Post # 5
It’s to be expected that if you are ‘waiting’ & often visiting a wedding website that mostly includes brides-to-be who are planning, you’ll get frustrated. This reminds me of the waiting girls getting upset over thier friends/family getting engaged before them/showing off thier rings on facebook etc. Just be happy for other people and thier own milestones in life. It has nothing to do with your relationship & comparing doesn’t get you anywhere.
That being said, I hope you aren’t waiting much longer.
Post # 6
I agree! Seeing all the people waiting though makes me feel alot better. Everytime I see someone engaged or their dress, or wedding pics I envision my own wedding and scream… seeing as though I have the venue, dress, and more already picked out… its just sad yet angering… I totally get where you are coming from
Post # 7
I agree, there are so many nice people on here that are friendly and give great advice. It’s great to have an outlet for what’s on your mind. It’s just on those really bad waiting days where something has set me off, I become a little jaded, and definately shouldn’t be on here, lol! It’s so hard not to be jealous when someone has what you want. It’s not right to NOT be happy for others, but hey, at least I keep my mean thoughts in my head, right? 🙂
Post # 8
When I was a waiting bee, I rarely ventured outside of the waiting boards. I didn’t know what I was missing but I am happy I missed it. I think it would have made waiting a bit harder.
Post # 9
I’m engaged and I still read the waiting boards, because I came here first when I was a waiting bee. I got such good help. Also, in some ways I still feel like I am waiting, because even though I have a ring, our venue is still not chosen, because I think my Fiance is getting over the sticker shock of how much a wedding costs and seeing if we can really do it on the cheap.
Anyway my heart goes out to anyone who is waiting and I am always here to support other people who are waiting for a proposal.
Post # 10
Waiting sucked. And the worst part was that when the proposal finally came, I wasn’t as ready for it as I thought I would be. I was in shock for two weeks before I finally cried and told my Fiance “thank you.”
I spent my time waiting trying to concentrate on WHY I was waiting instead of just enjoying my relationship as it was. I tried to concentrate on WHY I wanted to get married, what it would change about my relationship, why it was important to me. All that introspection was sufficiently distracting so that, when he did propose, I was a little caught off guard, and it took me a while to get myself out of “thoughtful” mode and into “excited” mode.
I’m glad I spent that much time thinking about it and figuring it out for myself. I think that’s what the guys are doing while the girls are “waiting.” We don’t take the time to really consider all sides of the situation. What we want, but more importantly WHY we want it. Even when you think you know, think about it harder! It feels better to say YES when you know why you’re doing it, and for more reason just than, “I love him, he’s my best friend, and I want to have babies and wear a pretty dress.”
So my message is, use this time productively, bees! It will come faster than you think and it will feel good to be ready for it.
Post # 11
I did! I was on here constantly….I got a little strung out on ring porn, actually. I felt a little obsessed on Mondays when I would log on to see who got engaged and then be a little sad. But, it helped me somehow! 🙂
Post # 12
When I was waiting I was on here constantly. I tried to avoid the other boards because they made me sad, but it was hard NOT to come to weddingbee because the waiting boards are so supportive–moreso than any other site I found. I was fine when the waiting boards were calm but on days that a bunch of bees announced their engagements on the waiting boards it made it really difficult to avoid and difficult to cope. Sending engagement fairy dust your way!!!
Post # 13
Yep! Me me me! I just came back from what feels like a 6 month hiatus. I know it wasn’t that long, but close…
Post # 14
I feel very frustrated with a lot of the waiting posts. Not because any of you are frustrating, but just because I want you to get what you deserve and these stupid guys don’t know how good they have it!!! I am glad if you guys have found a good place to get support though, although I think if it were me, frequenting a wedding board would drive me out of my mind.
Post # 15
i stay on the waiting, relationship and wellness boards. i am trying not to spend so much time on the waiting boards but i do think it helps me get the crazy out, heehee.
Post # 16
I try to stay away from most of the wedding-related boards, but sometimes I can’t resist, particularly “Rings.” But if I look at it too long, it makes me feel kind of sick and start wondering if my SO will EVER propose. It certainly seems like it’s a long way away right now, and I am tired of waiting even though I know I have a while to go.
Grump. Not having the best day in that regard. I do really like the waiting board because of the support that everybody offers, but sometimes it makes me sad to see that there are so many of us ready for marriage when our partners aren’t. . . and makes me wonder if I’m wasting my time.