Post # 1
My BM’s sister was married this morning, ten months after us…in the same church, with the same minister, the same photographer, the same time and timeline, similar decorations (and the same Bridesmaid or Best Man, obviously!). I guess imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, and I’m glad that this girl learned a thing or two from our experience. But it was hard to be back in the same place and see her ‘perfect’ wedding when mine wasn’t perfect. She has so much class and just looked gorgeous.
I s’pose my question is: Newlyweds, what has it been like for you to go to weddings following yours? Have any of you felt jealous, sad or critical? Do you think you enjoy weddings more or less for planning your own?
Post # 3
oh honey ((HUGS)) i am sure things went wrong behind the scenes that you didn’t know about and that she thought your wedding was perfect hence the imitation…
Post # 4
I enjoy weddings now (after marriage) for a couple of reasons.
1.) When you graduate from high school and college events,(proms homecomings), and when you have kids, I find there are fewer occassions to have an exciting evening out. Maybe get all fancied up.
2.) Most of the weddings I went to before I was married, happened while I didn’t have a bf. So while I loved gointo weddings, I was always thinking a little, “Would I get my turn?” “Are people going to ask me why I didn’t bring anyone?” “I love slow songs, and have no one to dance with.”
Post # 5
I haven’t yet attended one, but am in one next month and I feel as though I will enjoy it because I can take a step back and just breathe it in for what it is, and admire all the work and love poured in!!
Post # 6
I haven’t attended one since mine and I don’t know when we’ll have on as one of the engaged couple we knew broke up and the other seems to be on the waiting forever paln, it would be a second marriage for him and I think he has cold feet.
Post # 7
I have yet to attend one since my own. BUT, I def LOVE weddings even more now & even find myself jealous of my friends that have recently gotten engaged. I’m not jealous of THEM, I’m jealous that they get to plan a wedding!! I just loved planning my own wedding & almost wish I had a longer engagement just so that I could still be planning (j/k, but kind of serious, haha!)
Post # 8
Haha, AnnieAAA! Yeah, I’m happy for all the couples that have been married or engaged since us, but I miss our wedding and miss having an $XXXXX outlet for my creativity!
If you want to see the wedding that I went to (because the photos are AMAZING), check out the blog at http://www.perspectivesphotography.co.nz
Post # 9
I didn’t vote because I’m not married yet, but I can’t wait to start attending weddings after my own. I wasn’t interested in anything “wedding” before I got engaged. I also think I will enjoy myself more – no more dreading the bouquet toss tradition.
Post # 10
I didn’t vote, because I’ve only been to one wedding since my own. It was my best friend’s wedding and it really suited her, so I enjoyed it. At the same time, beforehand, I was a little concerned about some things she incorporated, but it ended up being perfect and not like how I imagined.
That being said, I’m not a fan of weddings in general, so if I feel obligated or forced to go to a wedding, I probably won’t enjoy it as much. I will, however, be grateful to not have to do the bouquet toss. I find it embarassing, especially since the last time I was pressured to go, it was at a wedding I was a videographer at, and I didn’t appreciate hearing it from the DJ or whoever it was. I didn’t go up since I didn’t find it appropriate, but even before that I wasn’t a fan.
Post # 11
I love weddings way more now. No more “should I do this? what’s her cake like? could I hire that DJ?” It’s over and done, and I can actually enjoy watching two become one.
I also understand the emotional aspect of the wedding more, not just the fantasy of a wedding but the realities of a marriage.
Post # 12
I cheated – I’m not married and I voted. But I am already enjoying weddings more, I now have a huge appreciation for all the planning and decisions. I love seeing what other people have done.