Post # 1
My mom wants me to include this girl that I grew up with and was close to for 12 years in my wedding. Problem is, we grew apart and I have not spoken to (or barely spoke to) her in 10 years even though we lived a floor apart in college and live in the same city right now. During these past encounters I feel like on her part the small talk was mostly forced due to ettiquete and it wasn’t an honest “it was so good to see you- let’s catch up” thing. I don’t even know what we would talk about honestly since it doesn’t seem like we have a lot in common anymore. It would just be uncomfortable. She knows practically nothing about my fiance and to befriend her just because of a wedding is odd, right? My mom thinks it would be a nice gesture but I really think it’s odd and just uncomfortable.
What do you think I should do?
Post # 3
Don’t include someone that makes for an uncomfortable situation. My FSIL is my MOH, and I have 3 friends as BMs. Talk to them all regularly (at least 2x week).
Explain this to your mom. It’s your wedding. Its not like this girl is a distant cousin or anything, if she was not asked to be in the wedding, I don’t see how she (or anyone else) could be offended AT ALL.
Post # 4
Your mom is right, it is a nice gesture, but it would also be an empty gesture if you didn’t really want to reconnect. Let your mom know that while you understand where she is coming from that you think it would be odd to reconnect with a past friend just because you are getting married. Sometimes people grow apart and that is ok, there is no need to have a death grip on a friendship that has run its course. **Not saying you have a death grip on the the friendship!!!
Post # 5
You’re both right. Is it a nice gesture? Yes. Is it necessary to include her? No.
Invite who you want to have there.