(Closed) Weddings are not more important than babies.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@AmeliaBedelia: She was mad that her sister missed the bridal shower because she had to go to the hospital with pregnancy complications.

Good Lord, she needs a reality check!

(I would be more worried that my sister was okay and the baby, too).

Post # 4
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3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@AmeliaBedelia: I hate when people associate weddings and births as being somehow similar entities. 

I can understand being kind of bummed internally about the excitement of a baby perhaps taking away from the wedding, but I would never actually voice that concern or kick someone out of my wedding for being pregnant. Who is the bride to be upset that her sister is pregnant?

Maybe there was something else going on between the two of them and the bride just used this as an excuse to kick the sister out? Weird. 

Post # 6
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3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@AmeliaBedelia: Yeah, totally weird. Too bad she’s not on Weddingbee so we could knock some sense into her! 😛

Post # 8
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh wow!!

yea, this should be posted in the “babies” section and see what happens.. I agree with the other girl, I hope shes not a Bee!!

Post # 9
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@AmeliaBedelia: Oh man I freaking LOVE your wording there on the last sentence, I agree 100%!!!! So many brides don’t get that and they think Maid/Matron of Honor should be whoever ca help them the most or spend the most $$ on Bridesmaid or Best Man stuff. My Maid/Matron of Honor hasn’t paid a cent, she is a mom who is struggling, but it meant a lot that she be the person standing next to me, so I bought her dress and everything.

Post # 10
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5547 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Totally not saying it is okay but I could see how it might suck. Sounds like the little sister, who dutifully helped with big sisters wedding and big sister had all the limelight, was excited for her wedding to be important to people and is now being outshined by the baby to be. Totally not rational I know, but being a little sister who did anything and everything I could to help with my sisters wedding and now having a sister who has done NOTHING to help with mine, get it. Would I be totally stoked if I found out my sis was pregnant now? HECK YES!! Would I be a little bummed that I dont get “my” moment in the spot light yes. Petty, yes, but sometimes that is all emotions  are. That being said, I also would never demote someone, especially my sister.

Yes your friends ACTIONS were wrong but to berate her for feeling isn’t very kind either. 

Post # 11
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3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@chasesgirl: I don’t think anyone was really berating her for feeling that way; I think it’s the way she handled the situation that’s rather unbelievable…

Post # 12
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

You know this is a very contentious topic around the Bee, right?! 😉

The way I think of it, the two things aren’t even comparable.  One is a right of passage that is very important and the other changes your lifestyle forever.  They are both family events, and that’s a beautiful thing!

But please, let’s not let this thread spin into a comparison of 2 absolutely non-comparable things… (as a warning to future posters, not to those who have posted so far!)

Post # 13
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah, that’s really weird. My sister became pregnant in the midst of planning, and even though it’s made certain things more difficult (like the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress!) I couldn’t be happier for her and her husband and for having a neice or a nephew!

I did ask her to announce the pregnancy before the wedding though. She hasn’t told family members except for my parents and I and she was just going to show up pregnant! 

Post # 16
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

FBIL/FSIL are due to have their first baby any day now so I can understand where this girl is coming from. I’m not saying one event is more important than the other but it does kind of suck having to “share the spotlight” (no need to disect my choice of words, ladies – I’ve heard it all before). However, I can pretty much guarantee that my feelings stem from being an only child and somewhat of an attention whore (not their fault). 

Being angry over the shower and demoting her sister is totally extreme but I get not being thrilled that both things are happening at the same time. While I would never expect anyone to put their lives on hold just for our wedding, it is kind of crappy when a very close family member has a baby just weeks before your big day. I know these are my issues and FBIL/FSIL didn’t do anything wrong but I can’t help the way I feel. Maybe if I liked kids it wouldn’t affect me so much, lol. 

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