(Closed) Weddings bring out the WORST in people

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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105 posts
Blushing bee

Sorry you are dealing with this.  It can be very true though.  After I got engaged, I quickly had two more female cousins who also got engaged.  The competition ensued.  Like you, I was the laid back planner, but it didn’t prevent my aunt contacting my mother constantly about details.  She went so far as to make sure we didn’t order the same dress, since I had purchased a dress from the designer her daughter was looking at (yes, she made a point to see if they keep everyone’s name on record of dresses purchased.).

Ultimately, as others will say, the wedding matters most to the person involved.  You care about your wedding most.  Don’t let others bog you down with their competitive talk or snide comments.  Make it the day you want to have and make the process of planning as stress-free as possible.  The last thing you need is to let someone else’s stress get in the way of your good time.  Good luck!

Post # 5
Bee
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

@WeddingBells33: Oh hon! Don’t let the snap decision people make you feel like you are behind on things. If you have a hall, food and a dress picked out then there is no way you can be behind six month before your wedding.

I took my time and picked things out the same way you did. Most stuff I would pick out then not order until the last minute to make sure there wasn’t something else I would want more. Worked out for the best EVERY time that way. I don’t regret a single things I had for the wedding.

Post # 6
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126 posts
Blushing bee

I hear ya!

One of my bridesmaids is getting married a year and a half AFTER me and has pretty much planned the whole damn thing and every time I say something like, ‘God, we better try and decide what favours we’re having’, she’s like, ‘Oh, haven’t you sorted that yet?’. She makes me feel so panicked!

Post # 7
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1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I often get asked ‘Have you done xyz yet?’ followed by a pushy ‘You really need to start doing it soon!’.  I know people mean well, but it’s really annoying. 

I met with the DOC at our venue last week, and she is the only person whose opinion regarding timelines matters to me. And she thinks I’m right on track!

Post # 8
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13 posts
Newbee

Yes, I couldn’t agree more!! I got engaged in May, getting married in June. One of my best friends got engaged in August, getting married in December. Ever since she got engaged, all we do is talk about her wedding, have bridesmaid meetings for HER wedding, and we barely talk about mine…even though mine is sooner!

But, I have decided to be the generous laid back bride. It doesn’t need to be all about me all the time, and she can play the role of the crazy bride! I take pride in the fact that the wedding process hasn’t changed me, I am laid back about planning, I don’t sweat the small stuff!

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