Post # 1
i just need to express myself!
.. So he proposed about a month ago, best day ever! been waiting for a while for it so yes I was over the moon! Now when I thought of my wedding previously i said i dont care where it is as long as we get married (i.e registry office/destination wedding etc). Now all of a sudden I feel all this pressure and its pressure to have the best dress, food, venue, entertainment (although I didn’t care for all this stuff before! I do now) i want all this stuff that i didnt care for before and this is where it gets so stressful.
I know im not the only one, question is.. How do people deal with the pressure and stress of planning a wedding
Post # 2
Do exactly what you and you fiancé want! Do not ask random people for advice, it will end up overwhelming you!
After a while I kept wedding talk to a minimum… people will take those oppostunities to give you their opinions, good or bad at all times. You and your Fiance make up your mindsand when everything is planned present it to others for a yes or no to attendance. That is it!
Those are the best pieces of advice I can give…
Post # 3
Congratulations! I know how you feel, it can be so overwhelming when starting your wedding plans because there is just so much to do.
My advice is to really focus and what you and your fiancé visualise for your special day. I think it’s lovely that you want to create an amazing day for your guests but if you worry to much about what others will expect then you might lose out on what you both really want. So relax and just enjoy it!
Start with your venue first and everything else will soon fall into place.
Post # 4
I agree with MeandMyLouboutins:
do what you want and don’t let other peoples opinions bother you. The thing about opinions is everyone has one and in the end the only one that matter is yours.
as for me I am doing all my planning. Not really asking much from other people around me. If i do i have a friend who has the exact same taste as i do and i can count on his opinion. It’s so funny because anytime we do stuff or try stuff together it never fails that we feel the same way.
Also dont expect much from your bridal party. Yes they are your girls but they are there to support you on your big day. Tons of girls seem to forget that and become an emotional wreck because it’s not all about them. Remember that everyone around you has a life to live and may have financial struggles of their own. In the perfect world everyone would be happy and could make it to all your wedding events but that’s stuff you see on reality tv amd movies that is just not practical.
Have fun and congratulations!
Post # 5
I call this Sex and the City syndrome! If you saw the first movie you’ll get the reference, but the main idea is you start with something personal and simple/small and then everyone starts influencing you and suddenly you’re walking down the aisle with a giant bejeweled feather head-dress. I’ve had to keep this in check myself a few times. The best piece of advice I received was to establish a realistic and detailed budget and stick to it, this will help you keep yourself in check. Also keep reminding yourself that as long as you and your fiance show up and get married, that’s what really matters! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Enjoy it, seriously, it goes by very quickly!
Post # 6
This exactly reminds me of an episode of Gilmore Girls (Season 2 Episode 17)
Orginally Sookie wanted to have a small wedding to Jackson, but after Speaking with Emily Gilmore she suddenly got swept away in trying to have the biggest best of the best wedding and it was spiraling out of control.
There was talk of measuring the town and little people dressed up as mushrooms.
Watch this. Not only will be entertaining but I think it cna totally relate to your situation
Now my advice
Life is too short to live a life of comparison. Do what you want to do, in the end its just one day and the marriage is more important than the wedding.
Dont let other people try to pressure you to change your wedding plans to bigger and more elaborate.
Congraulations on your engagement
Post # 7
Ha another TV Reference! I love it. 😀 Very Sex and the City Syndrome too
Post # 8
congrats on your engagement!!! i suggest to stay away from pintrest. that is a black hole in which you will never be the same when you return. i was like you – as long as i am married (JP, destination whatever) i’d be happy. now after being on pintrest i got swept away with all the pretty decor, dresses. i pulled my self back by planning out a realistic budget, never went on pinterest again and stuck to my original vision of simple and elegant. so even though i am tainted by magazines, pinterest, whathaveyou, i found that my budget, sitting with my Fiance and discussing his vision as well helped me stay the course.
Post # 9
It doesn’t matter what others or the wedding industry think about your wedding. It’s ultimately about you and your Fiance. I browse the fancy wedding sites occassionally but know that my style is much simpler. It’s saving us money that we can use for our future when we buy a house later. There is no need to have a lavish, “perfect” wedding if that’s not what you really want.
Post # 10
Remember your priorities.
Recognize the difference between needs and wants.
Don’t make your wedding a competition.
Develop a thick skin.
Post # 11
I’m doing everything exactly how I want it(FI tends to tell me he doesn’t care). If anyone doesn’t like it, well then they don’t need to come.
Do it the way YOU and Fiance want it. This is your special day, no one elses.
The best way I’ve dealt with the “pressure” is anytime someone gives me their opinion on how I shouldn’t do this, or I should do this… I flat out say “its my wedding, I’m doing it how I want”. Sounds bitchy but it shuts them up. Sometimes I’ll get a “Wow, you’re a bridezilla” I just own it. “yep, better not piss me off”. But thats also my attitude regardless of the wedding…. hmm.
Post # 12
I’m eloping. That’s how I’m dealing with it.
But it’s the best thing for my fiancé and I though. We have been engaged for a month and i already can’t handle people asking me too many questions that I don’t have answers too.
Post # 13
thank you thats great advice! Ive started already to avoid talking about it to others just for the sake of it.. Always ends in confusion
Post # 15
funny about the bridal party advice, i felt that way for a while and even though i wanted to shout every five mins I HAVE A VENUE or. I HAVE A DRESS just to get their opinions, i never really felt they cared. So i stopped talking about it now. I think im going to take your advice 😉