Post # 1
So since I have been a member of the bee I have noticed Southern Brides seem to have so many different traditions than the rest of the country! I am getting married in the Old Traditional South (Selma, Alabama) and have been a bridesmaid 8 times, YES 8! Seems like Wedding Showers are more prominent in the South and giving hostess gifts! Also have noticed than parents seem to pay more in the South! When I got engaged my family went into wedding mode! Starting spending money left and right! (even if they didn’t have it)! I assumed by going by the 8 weddings I had been apart of that my parents would pay for all the wedding stuff and my grooms parents would pay for the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon! That is how our wedding is going thus far, but many of my bee friends are not that lucky! I guess I should be VERY GRATEFUL for my Old South traditions! What have you noticed from different bees! I am SO glad I have had all of you to learn so many new wedding traditions!
Post # 3
I was going to say, same as you–I’m in the “old south” too! I already have two bridal showers in the works and I think I got shunned for telling someone I didn’t want bridal portraits. Also, omg, is it such a freaking crime to not register at Belk, geez?
I’ve noticed that just about everywhere else, people’s parents don’t pay for the weddings. I suspect in the next 10 years or so, the south might start following that trend.
I am sooo not having a traditional southern wedding. My family is going to be so confused 🙂
Post # 4
I am not having before hand bridal portriats either! At first my mom was all about that saving some money then she got to thinking about it adn well what would I put in the paper the Sunday after the wedding! So whenever I do my trial make-up and hair I am going to get in my gown and have dad take some pictures!
I did however register at Belk! But HAD TOO register at the small town jewelry store for all my china! 🙂
My wedding is very OLD SOUTH in some aspects and not so much in others! I think it is a perfect blend!
Post # 5
Haha good for you!! I’m glad you’re doing what you want 🙂
Post # 6
What type of traditions are you referring to? My mom is very old fashioned/traditional.
Post # 7
am i the only one who finds the idea of the “OLD SOUTH” pretty creepy? to me, old south means – apart from the tradition of parents paying – slavery, segregation, and other unsavory things. the ‘old south’ is a pretty complicated time period that shouldn’t be reduced just to chivalry and cheeriness!
Post # 8
Yay! Another Alabama bride! I’m not too far from Selma : )
I’m not really following the typical southern traditions because no one is really happy, or cares, that I’m getting married. My FIL’s seem to be the only ones who give a crap, but that’s another story.
So, there isn’t going to be an engagement party or a bridal party. My parents aren’t paying for anything other than my dress, no bridal portraits…
@malaika: I don’t think she means Old South in that way. It’s hard to explain really, but it has nothing to do with slavery and segregation. It’s the style, and the tradition and the way of life. Southern people get it, and it’s hard to explain it to other people. At least that’s the way I look at it. Also, Selma is a town that hasn’t really “changed” all that much in some places. As in the appearance of the stores and things. So it still is “Old South”. Also, it’s an old town…
Post # 9
woo hoo for southern brides! another thing i noticed..girls in the south tend to marry at a young age.
Post # 10
I’m not from the South by any means….Canada actually! My family is still pretty traditional though. I think it has a lot to do with family upbringing and specific towns. My family is originally from the East Coast and my grandmother is very strict and traditional about many things. My parents are paying for my wedding and they’ve been throwing parties and showers left, right, and centre. The girls in our circle also marry young and are very competitive about their weddings!!
Post # 11
@totheislnds: I haven’t really noticed that… Hm. Maybe I’m not paying attention. I’ll be 22 when I tie the knot, but I haven’t heard or seen any brides younger than 24 in quite a while.