(Closed) Weddings now suck for me

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2181 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Oh man – I am so sorry! That’s terrible! 

Maybe in a year or two you could renew your vows for your anniversary? Just a thought.

(Hugs) So sorry you had to go through that!!

Post # 5
126 posts
Blushing bee


I agree with amanda.lynn– Maybe a vow renewal will be nice.

You never know… the ripped jeans/t-shirt look on a groom might just be the next big thing.

Post # 6
3340 posts
Sugar bee

My wedding wasn’t everything I dreamed.  Half of my plans fell through.  I think some time and distance from it will make you feel better.  Because I can look back now and laugh at some of the things that I was really upset about the day after.  Give it a week and try not to think or dwell on it.  Maybe in a couple of months, you’ll be where I am–laughing at all of our “wedding adventures!”  Sorry and much {{{HIVE HUGS}}}

Post # 7
1449 posts
Bumble bee

Im so sorry your wedding wasnt as you pictured it.  I hope your nephew is ok.  Since you still have your dress can you do a ceremony at your courthouse where you wear your dress and he gets dressed up?  Just out of curiousity, I know you were running late but was someone not able to pick up your husbands suit and thats why he wasnt able to wear it?

Post # 8
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Whoa, MissChocoholic, I’m so sorry that your wedding wasn’t all you wanted. What happened??

Post # 9
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

****Hugs**** I think a vow renewal would be nice… do it with everything that would make the both of you happy!

Post # 10
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Hotel Vitale

So sorry. Hugs.

For the first few weeks after the wedding I could only focus on what went wrong- as the weeks and months float on by- I feel a lot better about it. I promise your memories will become more positive.

But if not, I think a Vow renewal is an awesome second chance at a perfect ending.

Post # 11
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh no how awful! If you don’t want to tell us what happened, we’ll understand but I’m kind of confused.

Plan a 1-year vow renewal. It may seem a little early, but who the hell gives a monkey poop?! Do it anyways and only invite your closest of the closest. Or do it somewhere just you and him

Post # 12
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Oh goodness, I would be upset too. *Hugs* Like the other bees have suggested, a vow renewal would be a nice way to have another go.

Post # 13
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Aww 🙁 I think a vow renewal sounds like a really good idea. It’s probably better to have a not-so-great wedding and a super-duper marriage than a super-duper wedding and a not-so-great marriage. Sometimes those are the kinds of things that will make you stronger.

Post # 14
4835 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Or instead of a vow renewal (or in addition) maybe you two could get dressed up in your wedding attire and do a “day after”  (week after, month after, whatever) shoot?  You could ask a friend who’s good with a camera to take the photos.  Maybe that will help you to fix the image of your groom in ripped jeans?

But for now at least you’ve got a unique story!  That said…care to share the story?

Post # 15
3952 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What happened?  Let us know?  We’re here for you and I’ve got a shoulder to cry on!

And fwiw, there isn’t any perfect day ever.  It’s the love that counts.  And a vow renewal at a romantic spot or where you both honeymooned is a great idea!

Heck when I married my xh let’s see what went wrong..Oh my 2.4 carat solitaire engagement ring was LOST by the best man and I got married wearing my sister’s engagement ring (how’s that one?).  It was found an hour after the reception in his ash try (he’s a non smoker) in his car and that’s where he put it so he wouldn’t FORGET IT and not bring it to the church!

My xh’s sister (she was a bm too) refused to get her hair and makeup done by the professionals I hired and PAID FOR and walked out there looking like a drowned rat that just stepped out of the shower with no makeup and hair not dry.  Grrr!

Stuff happens!

I had a friend (on another thread i talked about it) who had her nail catch fire during the lighting of the unity candle and another couple who were getting married at a church very near a railroad crossing and the train came rolling throught (a very long like 20 minute train) and nobody could hear the minister or the couple say the vows and the entire ceremony was basically unheard except for the loud train and its horn.  That was fun huh? 


Post # 16
1530 posts
Bumble bee

I’m so sorry that your wedding wasn’t what you wanted it to be, Miss Chocoholic.  🙁  I agree with the other posters–you should try to do a vow renewal and see if you can make it more the way you pictured. 

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