Post # 1
Fiance and I wanted a small wedding, but with huge families, it seemed impossible. SO, our formula was that we decided to only invite those that we felt close to.
We had to cherry-pick, but luckily, my family understood, and no one took it personally.Weddings are expensive, and there’s a million of them. They get it.
His family, on the other hand, was not so understanding. There was one cousin in particular that we had no problem excluding. The guy’s a creep. In and out of jail, he’s stolen money from multiple family members. He’s not supposed to be around alcohol. I don’t need to rake this guy over the coals, but let’s just say this isn’t someone we want to associate with in our daily lives, let alone at our wedding with a table of cash-filled cards.
We had NO idea that anyone would care that he wasn’t invited, because his family always talks about how much of a creep he is when he’s not around.
We were wrong. FMIL was pissed and spent a LOT of time trying to convince us to invite him. FI stayed firm on his decision, so Creep’s sisters are now “boycotting” our wedding because he wasn’t invited.
Isn’t that weird? I feel like if my brother was a criminal (and a creep) I’d be glad he wasn’t coming.
I asked Fiance, “If you knew this would happen, would you have invited Creep?” and the answer was still no.
I feel sad for my fiance who has to deal with so many people doubting his decisions. But guess what? We’re paying for the wedding, and we’re inviting who we WANT there.
Why can’t people just be happy for us and let us enjoy our day how we want?
Post # 3
@WhiskeyEverAfter: People are so damn sensitive it blows my mind. You’re going to boycott a wedding as a form of protest because your brother wasnt invited? Get out of here. What amazes me about this phenomenon is how normally calm, level-headed people do a 180 when it comes to weddings. Sorry, but me not being able to make all 4 of your showers does not make me a ‘bad friend.’
Post # 4
@badabing88: “What amazes me about this phenomenon is how normally calm, level-headed people do a 180 when it comes to weddings.”
I know, right?! And it’s totally surprising me WHO makes the switch. The people I was worried about have been angels, and the angels have become psychotic.
Post # 5
@WhiskeyEverAfter: Same here. There are a couple that I think have cut us off completely for imagined wedding-related transgressions.
Post # 6
@WhiskeyEverAfter: I don’t know why either.
is how normally calm, level-headed people do a 180 when it comes to weddings.
My Mum and step dad went into controlling mood, I know they did it out of best intentions but it still annoyed me at the time and took me some time to get over it.
Post # 7
If someone “boycotted” my wedding I’d be glad that I’m not spending however much money it is on them. No one’s precense is worth compromising for except your FI’s!
Post # 8
I learned a lot about people from my wedding. I considered it a blessing.
Post # 10
@WhiskeyEverAfter: i have no idea why OTHER people feel entitled to control your decisions about your day.
my FI’s brother (distant brother who travels for NOTHING), found out that FI’s other brother (much more reliable and all around kind-hearted) was a groomsman (we’re having 2 attendants each – that’s it). FI offered to pay for the distant brother’s suit or tuxedo so he can look as nice as FI and the other brother. but when distant brother got wind of the idea that the wedding wasn’t about him, he said he’s not coming and doesn’t want anything else to do with FI.
uhhh, why so extreme? people are weird and crazy.
Post # 11
@MrsPinkPeony: OMG this exactly! Its pretty surprising the things people do/say/feel entitled about when its your wedding
Post # 12
@Atalanta: Thanks, I agree. I tried to talk to the sisters and got quite a nasty email response. If people go looking for drama, they’re going to find it. It feels like they’re over-reacting and trying to give us a guilt trip, but the only people affected by it is them. They’re the ones who are going to be home on a Saturday night. Our wedding/marriage will still be kickass without their attendance.
Post # 13
There is rarely just one bad apple in a tree. Forget ’em. Your fiance doesn’t care so it’s a moot issue.