Post # 1
From past polls I can tell we all feel differently about the role of social media during the planning process. I’m of the opinion that it’s fine to update that you’re engaged, but I feel it’s overkill to constantly post about every little thing in terms of planning. I guess it just seems a bit braggadocious or something, especially since you could just text/call the people who care the most. Idk..
But what about the wedding/reception itself? I find it interesting that there seems to be a growing number of people who actually update FROM their wedding. For instance, this girl who I took a class with a while ago was updating her status right up to walking down the aisle, and most recently another FB friend had changed her name, her relationship status, posted a status about how she’s now married, and uploaded a photo all before leaving the church parking lot and heading to the reception. She looked great though!
- So how do you feel about sharing info frequently during the planning process? Overkill? Braggadocious?
- Will you be updating during your wedding, or is this too much?
Post # 3
I think it’s okay to share stuff like setting a date or finding a venue. But anything more than that is oversharing.
And I would never update during the wedding! That seems so crazy to me. I’ll do one status update in the early morning when I wake up. Something like “I’m getting married today!!”. Then I’ll put away my phone and stay away from Facebook until after the honeymoon is over.
Speaking of the honeymoon, there is a girl on my Facebook who is currently on her honeymoon and she keeps updating her status and uploading photos! WHILE SHE IS STILL ON HER HONEYMOON!
I will never do that. Once I leave for the honeymoon with my new husband, my phone is being turned off and STAYING off until I come back. Same for my husband’s phone. Lol we will need our privacy 😉
Post # 4
I wrote a post one day whenI booked like 3 vendors in one day and was super excited. I don’t post much about it though, that was the only time I think
Post # 5
I post things. If people don’t want to see it they can hide my posts. Simple. I do that with people’s post that annoy me.
Post # 6
@LadyBlackheart: Lol wow, there are so many more important things to do on your honeymoon! That’s definitely different
Post # 7
I just think it’s rude to update unless every person on your facebook or twitter is invited to your wedding.
Post # 8
@Galang_Gyal: I would never update at the actual wedding. No way. I’ll be too busy enjoying myself and my new husband!
As far as planning and other wedding related events, I do share a bit. For instance, my grandmother threw me a tea party/shower with some of her friends as guests and had everything decorated beautifully. I did share a few pictures via Instagram and Facebook, and I did put a status up about how much fun I had. For what it’s worth, I got a lot of “likes” and friends seemed to enjoy seeing the pictures.
Other than that though, I don’t constantly update about wedding things. As it gets closer though, I will admit being more excited about my “bride” status and wanting to share a bit! If you don’t like it, don’t look at my wall 🙂
Post # 9
@Galang_Gyal: I saw someone updating quite a bit during their wedding yesterday and just shook my head a bit.
I think it’s okay to post occassionally about wedding stuff. I posted at 100 days out and then yesterday (a week out) but beyond that I haven’t really posted anything. I don’t think it’s rude to people who aren’t invited. I have never seen someone’s posts and thought “how rude, they didn’t invite me but they’re talking about it!” I personally think that people who find occassional updates rude are a little sensitive.
I will not be updating during my wedding. I plan on having my phone with me in case of some kind of emergency but I will be too busy enjoying my guest’s company and my new DH to play on my phone!
Post # 10
You aren’t really supposed to talk about your wedding with people who aren’t invited. So, unless you invited your WHOLE fb friends list, I think it’s best to limit updates to just a couple major announcements.
Post # 11
I only have a facebook because I moved 600+ miles away from my friends and family and this is the current preferred method of communication. If it was smoke signals, I’d do that. If it was picking up the frigging phone, I’d embrace it. So though I occasionally share my life events, it isn’t common. I won’t even have a phone on me on my wedding day. As for my FI? He has no online presence whatsoever, so the odds of him joining social media to share stuff is completely unlikely.
Post # 12
The only wedding-related posts I’ve made so far were when I got engaged and when I hit my one year mark a couple days ago. Other than that, I think I might make 1-2 more posts about it and that’ll be it.
I do share a lot more on my (relatively anonymous) Tumblr, though. I’m Facebook friends with a few girls from my Tumblr, and a few of them may get courtsey invites, but I already know that none of them will come. I’ve never actually met any of them.
Post # 13
The only wedding-related updates I’ve done on Fb thus far is changing my status to engaged and writing a status where I vented about the social requirement to wear white on one’s wedding. I don’t think I’ll be adding anything else except to change my status after we get married. I certain;y won’t be updating during the wedding itself.
Post # 14
does a blog count? i’m documenting our planning on a blog. i don’t really mention the wedding much on facebook though. maybe randomly, but not very often.
Post # 15
Well, I didn’t tell anyone on FB about the date or the venue choice, but I did update my FB to engaged and put the ring pic up. I don’t feel comfortable posting the date & venue, because… not everyone I’m friends with is invited. We are inviting 100 MAX, and fully expect less than 75, because of the distance travelled for many people. I just want to avoid the self invites as much as possible.
Post # 16
@soontobemrsm11: “I just think it’s rude to update unless every person on your facebook or twitter is invited to your wedding.”