Post # 1
Lately I’ve been wholely disgusted without the amount of money my parents want to spend on the wedding. I’ve decided that rather than sulk about it, I want to be proactive!
Thanks to mrscash for working with me on this list of ideas for using a wedding for better not for worse 🙂
- Give donations in lieu of favors
- Use a charity registry where 5% of the gifts you receive go towards a charity. (TheKnot uses this method!
- Donate leftover food to a homeless shelter/soup kitchen.
- Donate your dress to a bride in need. (Or sell it, and donate the profits to charity!)
- Use recycled paper or animal by-product paper (Like Ellie Pooh Paper!) instead of chemically treated paper made from freshly destroyed forests.
- Set up recycling bins if you’re using plastic cups/glass bottles. Substitute wooden stirrers for plastic ones.
What are your ideas for paying it forward in your wedding? Feeding the hungry? Saving (or at least not destroying) the environment?
Here’s a whole list of how to make your wedding charitable: http://www.bridalguide.com/planning/wedding-reception/25-ways-to-create-a-charitable-wedding
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Great ideas. How about donating all your centerpieces to a nursing or assisted-living home, or a hospital! (Just make arrangements ahead of time.)
Post # 4
We did donations instead of favors and registered through the IDoFoundation, which gives some percentage to charity for travel booked through them, and registry gifts (Macys works with them). Also –
– The 5 GMs, the ring bearer, my DH, and I all wore TOMS (I actually bought 2 pairs for me), so that’s 9 pairs of shoes that were given to those in need.
– For my BM gifts, I tried to give back a bit. I bought the girls 2 large candles from St Judes Children’s Hospital, LUSH lotion (the charity pot, which donates money to a charity) and EnviroSax, reuseable bags from a company that also does charitable donations.
– We decorated our already-beautiful outdoor ceremony venue with 16 potted plants, which we also used in our reception ballroom, and returned them to the florist a day later. So, we didn’t have to kill more plants.
– I don’t know if this counts, but we had the reception at a historic location that’s always struggling to raise money, so we gave business to them rather than some corporate or private location.
Post # 5
There is a not for profit caterer in our area that teaches kitchen & restaurant skills the less fortunate individuals. Their prices were good and their food gets good reviews.
We’re looking at not for profit venues right now. Places that have camps for kids often have neat programming and cool locations.
You can buy goods and services from bridal charity auctions. Often it’s a win-win: discounted service, and a donation for the charity!
Post # 6
@lolot: That’s such a great idea for floral centerpieces!
@confettiegg2000: That’s fantastic! I’m especially a fan of buying local, so supporting small business’s totally wins my heart. I’m looking for gift ideas now, so I definitely plan to look into the candles! 🙂
@jdhall89: I love your idea for an untraditional venue. It actually popped in my head that we have a great summer camp retreat I could have possible used :/ Hindsight is 20/20 I guess! Where do you find out about bridal charity auctions?
Post # 7
@OnceUponATime: I had heard of other couples buying services at that sort of event on the boards, actually! Seattle has an event called “Get Hitched, Give Hope,” and Brides Against Breast Cancer is a pretty well-known one.
Post # 8
Great ideas, and I like the concept but I do want to point out that the favors are gifts for your guests as a thank you for being there. IMO, a charitable donation is not the same thing and doesn’t substitute. 🙁 I know many brides disagree, but there is a contingent on here that believes this.
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Ask the wedding party to wear outfits they already own.
Post # 9
I’m asking the students I work with to do my hair and make up trials so they can fulfil their portfolio requirements. We are also going to do charity favours for a local children’s charity.
Post # 10
@confettiegg2000: How do the logistics work out with the favor donations?
Post # 11
@chachaD: I’m seen it executed in a prettier, more official way, but we just printed up a little sign that said, “In lieu of favors, the bride and groom have chosen to make a donation to XXX and YYY.” (omitted on this forum to avoid further controversy) and set it up near the gift table and guest book. Then, we made the donations on our own time, and that was that.
Post # 12
@kay01: Ah, I guess that’s just a personal thing for me. I don’t need/want a physical item to remind me of an event. I’ve gotten the most pointless trinkets and gross foods.
As far as I know favors aren’t necessary, but optional. So donations in honor of guests aren’t necessarially a substitute for a favor, but a different category altogether.
@chachaD: We’re doing a card like this at every place setting. The front is a “thank you for coming.” The back will look something like this. I’m not a fan of the fact that I wrote “in your honor.” I’ll figure something out.
Post # 13
@OnceUponATime: thank you. This is a great idea. We have a cause that’s really important to us. I am going to talk to my planner about this. These ideas are so much better than favors. I would rather give something back. Thanks for starting this thread, it’s one of the best and most useful I have read thus far.
Post # 14
LOVE this thread. We are doing Kiva loans instead of favors and letting our guests pick which countries they go to.
Post # 15
@chachaD: @engleman10513: I’m glad you love this thread! Hopefully we can generate more ideas 😀
Post # 16
@jdhall89: I love your venue ideas! If you’re going to be paying so much money to use a space, it totally makes sense to choose a place that has a mission you can really get behind!